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Growing up gay and atheist in a Christian setup

Christianity and homosexuality have long been conflicting concepts. It is grimly disillusioning when a top Christian man who is a pastor births a homosexual, proud son. Can he eliminate his own son for the sake of a being a pastor? This is something that is unlikely but how does he preach about homosexuality before the church when his own son is gay?

Growing up gay, intelligent and boldly courageous, his father had to learn to live with him, despite his controversial sexual orientation. The father couldn’t cast a spell or renounce him, but consoled himself that it is God’s will. The Bible he reads doesn’t allow him to do anything unholy, and the law isn’t on his side either.

The advice ‘Go and find yourself’ has always caused him (gay son) anxiety. This is primarily because it implies that creation of a person starts with the synchronicity of completion and loss of self. It suggests that he has to get out, find himself, a he that he has never met, but somehow lost.

Renowned author, novelist and publisher, Dr Bryan Keitsemang doesn’t think that’s how anything begins. He imagines a person that a person starts as nothing and in their interaction with the world, they create themselves with pieces that they feel when put together, would form who they want to be. Growing up, he had so many fears about the future and most of them were about who he might become.

“I feared becoming an untamed spirit whose wranglings with religion would lead me to believing in absolutely nothing else but freedom, friendship, sex, family, justice, love and a life of hope, art and resilience. I also used to fear that people would notice I was homosexual before I told them.” Dr Keitsemang said this in an exclusive interview this week.

Dr Keitsemang highlighted that being homosexual doesn’t mean it as a stamp of identity, but as a component of his behavior. There is more color to him than just hi sexual orientation.

“So many things that I am would make my younger self cringe. But I have grown. So much that I look back on him not with embarrassment or shame but with warmth and understanding. He was only doing the best he could with what he knew.”

The young author previously said he almost married a woman, something that he would obviously regret his entire life, because “I kept getting a feeling that this was not what he wanted.”

“I loved her so much it hurts and I won’t hesitate to say this any day, she was an incredible woman. What kept echoing on my mind was that it won’t last. And what I didn’t want was to hurt her by not being true to my sexuality. We amicably ended the relationship but it was sad at the same time. We both invested our emotions into a relationship that was blank but it is what it is, we had to make things end.”

Post this dramatic crash, Dr Keitsemang felt relieved and light. But he had a storm to weather: people knowing he is gay would eventually be judgmental but he had to live the truth in order to safe himself.

“Self-discovery can liberate those we love. I don’t think it is wrong for a human being to be seen being human. I simply believe that there are so many colorful ways to live and love. I am also aware of how difference can be isolating and frightening, especially when you’ve come of age in a country where politics are defined by marginalization and exclusion.”

“I know the crippling anxiety that comes with the thought of giving years of love and life to your partner only to be seen as nothing but a familiar stranger at the ICU door. The private battle with oneself contributes so much to queer drama. This is why we come out because we’ve lived so much of our lives nervous and hidden in the broken pieces within ourselves.”

Talking about politics, it has been over three weeks now since churches raised their voices about amending laws in the Penal Code that criminalizes or discriminates gay persons.

Dr Keitsemang stressed that he and members of the LGBTIQ community are going nowhere and Batswana will have to learn to live with them. Unashamedly gay, he said the conversation of criminalizing homosexuality is irrelevant until the church gives a justification for why it’s right to override individual freedom and autonomy.

The celebrated author has published several books including Prayers of an Atheist, a memoir that tells his story of growing up gay and atheist as a pastor’s son. The book earned him endless criticism from religious pundits, but he says whoever thinks he’s speaking out to stir controversy must widen their sense of awareness. “I am a writer. I owe it to myself and to my art to live truthfully.”

When further unleashing his frustrations, Dr Keitsemang said he is baffled by how people live in a society that frowns upon love but encourages hate. “Christians are thickening the air with homophobia and it is important to remember that in a functional democracy, equality doesn’t only mean uniformity.”

“Equality also means divergence from mainstream ideas if we’re to protect vulnerable groups of our society. Churches can march all they want to Parliament- they have the right to demonstrate their rejection of homosexuality- but the constitution liberalism in our democracy recognizes human beings have inalienable rights, and that governments ought to accept a basic law which limits its own powers to secure those rights.

He said churches must rehabilitate its argument or let gay people be, saying people don’t have to agree with homosexuality to understand that not everyone carries the same beliefs and that love us too beautiful to be constricted.




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Creatives taking over 2023

26th September 2023

Creativity is seen everywhere and these individuals did something recently that’s never been done before, and some are still killing it. We see creativity on streaming platforms, stages, runways, social media and boardrooms even. Some of them are revamping their businesses, and lately, clothing sale is thriving.

They love concept-driven designs, storytelling and they bring fresh ideas and new perspectives that will leave footprints in the sand. Post the COVID-19 pandemic, these creative minds utilized the drawing board and they became cognizant that monetizing content will actually take them far, which is frank nonetheless.

This is commendable though, but the creative industry will still need support from government in order for it to flourish further. Allocation of resources (funds, facilities and empowerment) should be done consistently, creativity must be raised and at the end of the day, the economy benefits from that kind of investment.


Ever since he parted ways with his former manager, DJ Bougee Sid, Mahalapye born-pint sized, multi-award-winning artist, Hanceford Magapatona has been taking up space, unapologetically so. Han C has shown a strong will to take over the entire world, and he is in the right direction. He’s solely organizing the annual Mahalapye Spring Festival, which is taking place next weekend.

The Pepetetsa hitmaker raked some monies from his savings to put together this event. Mahalapye Spring Festival will feature Paige, Ubuntu Band, Khoisan, Amantle Brown and Double Up among others. Even though it didn’t come as a surprise, Han C was nominated at African Muzik Magazine Awards (AFRIMMA) in the US, under Best Male Southern Africa category.

However, the award was snatched by the late South African rapper, AKA. Its not all lost as Han C secured two nominations at the Yarona FM Music Awards (YAMAs): People’s Choice of the Year and Best Male Single.


This entrepreneur has turned his dreams into reality, and his promising apparel business is now a fashion destination. Matter of fact, Motswagole weathered the storms to be where he is now because through criticism and social media bullying, he still leads the pack in fashion.

His social media accounts got deleted but through his online store, KM Sales, Motswagole is able to rake in some profits. He initially started selling from his car but now owns a busy store and has employed a number of young people.

KM Sales has been offering fashionable items (shoes, t-shirts, pants) and has been participating in various lifestyle events such as Garden of Drip where it showcases its products.

If there is one young entrepreneur to draw motivation from is Koketso. The business started from humble beginnings, at the time when he worked part time at Ipelegeng as a casual labor. Indeed, good things come to those who wait, or well, work like a slave today, live like a king tomorrow.


Vee Mampeezy’s ex-wife Kagiso De Klerk clearly did not sit and weep over their dramatic divorce. The famous social media influencer hurriedly picked up the pieces and went hard on promoting business online. She literally took social media influencing to the head and it is working for her.

This year saw her partnership with Shell reach greater heights, and obviously, she is raking lot of pulas from the deal. Kagiso has been making frequent appearances in top events in South Africa such as Bubbles in Spring and Gold and Diamond Experience.


After a long break from the limelight, renowned media and radio personality, Gaona Dintwe is back. She was missed by many on TV, and she’s back where she belongs, news anchoring on BTV. Gaona has also found a niche in podcasting. She is a host of her own podcast, Gaona Live Conversation, where various people share their stories on camera.

Some of what they discuss is Gender Based Violence (GBV), polygamy and drug addiction. This is highly commendable because even BTV doesn’t have programs that discuss these crucial social issues. The Lentswelemoruti native is also seen in various corporate events where she is engaged as a host.






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26th September 2023

Now that one-man shows are made fashionable, traditional dance guru and ex-convict, Ditiro Leero is joining the crusade and he will be hosting his also. The show will be held next month at Zone 4 Farm in Selokolela, but the there are traditional dance music artists who have been lined up to perform at the show. Matshana, Morwa Leka and Maswailathota will be doing their thing and probably bring some heat too. Ditiro Leero will be making history as the first traditional artist to host a one-man show in Botswana.

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26th September 2023

With only two months before Miss World 2023, the reigning Miss Botswana, Lesego Chombo is having many irons in the fire, preparing for the much-anticipated beauty pageant. Miss World 2023 will be the 71st edition of Miss World pageant and it will be held in India. Chombo has been spotted toning her body at Jack’s gym, a requirement that is taken seriously at the pageant. She has also been participating in charity events, something that should add to her profile at the Miss World.

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