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Marriage, Relationships & baby mamas

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Pastors and servants of God are no exception when talking about issues built around marriages, cheating, baby mamas and relationships. They too walk through the valley of the shadow of death, with the flesh stronger than the will of God at times.

Prophet Canon Amantle Gaorengwe, the Overseer of Heavily Heavenly Defended Church, opened up to this publication on how he almost lost his now wife due to his promiscuous ways, baby mamas from hell who were out for a pound of his flesh despite his commitment to someone else.

Sometimes being a man of God means people have an image of you and how you should be in character. With him it took a strong woman for him to realise his mistake and how much pain he was causing his partner. Even though it took a lot for the man of God to be where he is now, it was thanks to his wife and his family who helped him fight his demons.

Gaorengwe, who recently got married to his wife, Precious, opened up to WeekendLife about his relationship and marriage and how they met, to how they stood together in challenging times.

“I met my wife in 2018. She just came to church with her relationship problem. At the time she just came to church for counselling. Of which I had to give her counselling based on what she was going through. She was in a relationship with a servant of God like me. But the most painful of it was that there was no truth or transparency in it. So she had a lot stresses that she had to confide in me. I gave her the best counselling,” he said.

“At the time I was in a relationship with someone. I was going through a relationship turmoil too. I was counselling her based on what I was going through. She was healed and afterwards she became the member of the church. I then started mentoring her in the things of God.  After I left my previous relationship I approached her and we became official.”

When the two met he had a lot of battles he was going through as he had a serious weakness for women. At the time he was secretive and keeping a lot of things away from her.

“My wife is very prayerful person and some of the thing she would see them in visions and she would come and confront me and I would deny. Each issue she brought forward I became angry. She had caught me red handed three or four times. Sometimes she would find messages of me flirting with other women on the phone. Sometimes pure evidence that things went down.  She caught me the other time when the baby mama had visited me. She had come to bring the baby to see me. Things happened. When she came back she found the evidence. I could not deny it and I apologised. It was painful to her because I was building constant pain in her,” he said.

“She love me and many people tried to talk her out of the relationship. Those who knew what I have been doing. She caught me many times but she never went away because she believed that God showed her that I am her husband.’’

Even though he was constantly cheating on his wife, there came a point where he had to bring change to his way-ward ways and become a better person for her, his marriage and his child.

“I learnt a lot from what my wife went through and how she handled situations. I saw a wife in her. One thing I picked about her, she would see things, but she would be at her calmest when she is confronting me. She never confronted me with anger or disrespect because she knew we are building something,’’ said Gaorengwe.

“When we made a decision to get married change began. Marriage brings a certain kind of deliverance. There is a maturity that comes with it. I started becoming transparent. I was able to share with my wife everything. There are no more secrets and the trust has bountifully grown.”

Cutting ties with relationships that tie you down takes a lot of courage and boldness when you want to rebuild yourself and become a better version of you. With Gaorengwe, it meant cutting connections with women that posed a threat to his marriage.

“It was no longer about them but about my new principles to avoid falling back to the same clutches. Sometimes exes would trouble me. After I got married, some would call and tell me they still love me. The person was quite all along until I got married. She told me she wanted my attention. But I told her that can’t happen. I had to shut communication with some women, delete contacts and changed sim cards. When you get married you have to separate yourself,” Gaorengwe stated.

When quizzed on how people can tackle the issue of baby mamas in marriages and relationships he said, “Naturally when women have babies with you, they have created the greatest bond with you. We are not supposed to blame baby mamas. With married people, the husband should step in and create a mutual relationship between the two women. We should not use a child for sexual pleasures with baby mamas.”

While some may find it hard to keep their relationship above water, he said faith and trust are the two things that can keep relationships working. He further explained that trust can die but faith cannot die.

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TatsoConnekt Leading Women Brunch

14th October 2022

On Saturday 29 October 2022 (11:00- 15:00) Bash Connektor will be presenting their 1st TatsoConnekt Leading Women Brunch which will be hosted by Basadi’Bash’Masimolole. Tatso. A Setswana word. Taste  .Tatso / ta-tso/. verb.

The Brunch will be held at Myhomecafe by Mogobane Dam and tickets are selling at P650 per person. Only 50 tickets available and sold through pre-booking. The value of the offering will be a brunch meal + bottomless mimosas + connekting conversations that matter with leading women in corporate and entrepreneurship. This is an inspirational / empowerment connekting session for Women.

Bash Connektor is a Marketing Company with a twist founded in March 2022 by Basadi Bash Masimolole who has 15 years plus Marketing Experience. The INTENT of Bash Connektor is to Link People, Experiences, and Brands. The K instead of C is INTENTIONAL. We are all about contributing towards AMPLIFYING brand and country messages through curating experiential offerings and connekting conversations that matter, said Basadi Masimolole.

With a sponsor or funding, Basadi Masimolole’s ultimate goal is to have visual podcasts and empowerment connektor sessions at villages as part of cultural tourism and contributing towards the Botswana Government’s Rural Areas Development Program (RADP).

Individuals interested in purchasing the limited number tickets or Brands interested in participating on the TatsoConnekt Leading Women Brunch through sponsorships/ brand placement opportunities can reach Basadi’Bash’Masimolole on +267 7140 6660 / masimololebasadi@gmail.com / Bash Connektor Facebook page.

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