Very seldom do women come out and talk about the atrocities they face at the hands of so called �Men of God�, and even when they do, rarely are the allegations purported against these wolf in sheep�s clothing taken seriously.

Author of �Sex keeps a Man�, Bogadi Serumola, has taken a leap and told her story against her pastor and former lover. Serumola, a nurse by profession, tells of how she was raped by the revered Man of God. The ordeal has left Serumola shattered.

According to Serumola, the two had met online. The pastor had sent her a Direct Message (DM) on Facebook, the conversation then shifted to WhatsApp and before long the two were going on dates and later became an official couple. For Serumola, it had always been a dream to marry a Man of God and the presence of a pastor in her life led her to believe that she had finally met the one for her.

�When he in boxed me I went through his profile and I noticed he was a Prophet. So I was happy that I will be called mummy. This happened in 2017 and I had always wished to be married to a Pastor, so having that guy proposing was like a dream come true. I was over the moon,� she said.

At the time of the alleged rape incident, Serumola was a young college student at the Institute of Health Sciences. The alleged perpetrator lived in Mahalapye whereas Serumola was based in Gaborone.

The Pastor finally made his way to Gaborone with the intention to meet the young Serumola. He had gone as far as to make reservations at a guesthouse for the two of them. Initially Serumola was sceptical about whether she was safe with a man she barely knew but the relentless persistence softened up the gullible young lad and she gave in.

According to Serumola, the pastor was conducting one of his sessions at the said guesthouse and he argued that it would be easier and more convenient for them to meet at the guesthouse. �At the time I was doing second year at Institute of Health Sciences. I was looking forward to meeting this guy as he was staying in Mahalapye and I was staying in Gaborone.

This guy literally did everything to make me happy and I was really looking forward to building a future with him. He told me everything about his church and I was looking forward to being his support system. I excitedly told my best friend about this great guy I met.

�So he came and picked me up at school and we went to the guest house. Prior to that he introduced me to his protocol team as �mummy�. That made me feel good and happy, I felt like I finally met the one guy I had been waiting for. When we got to the guest house, we started talking about relationships, and I told him I am the sex after marriage type.

Which he said he believes in having sex with his partner, otherwise he wouldn�t want to go outside to get it while he is still with me,� she said.
Serumola says that her rapist used an old tactic of asking for a back massage and then he later proceeded to molest her behind locked doors before he forced himself on her.

�So as we were talking, he told me that he is having a back pain and that he needed a massage. So he went to close the room curtains because he said he needed some privacy. As we continued talking he started kissing me, and whispering sweet nothings in my ear, he even started touching me. I noticed he was going too far and I tried to stop him but he told me that he can get that anywhere else.

I told him I was on my period and he went to get a towel to show me how it is done,� said Serumola. Serumola describes how hard she fought in vain with the man twice her weight. She recalls how she cried bitterly, pleading with the man of God to stop but he would not relent until he had his way with her.

�At that time I felt like dirt, I felt really bad and I told him to take me back to school,� she lamented.After the incident, she went into a stage of denial which made it hard for her to heal, until she decided to face it and heal.

�After everything, I felt insecure about a lot of things, my body and I were in denial that it happened. First thing for my healing I had to acknowledge that it happened. Accepted that he did that to me. I talked to someone and I lived in the moment, then I started to forgive myself and him,� she said.
How occult Pastors use women.

According to close sources, a lot of men of God are sleeping with women to feed their occultist powers. �In the occultism world what is happening is that the more you sleep with women the more your powers are enhanced and you are able to prophesy better. There is a lot that they are using to attract these women, to an extent that some get raped. Some are raped aware, some unaware,� he said.

�Most of them that I have counselled they went for prayers and one on ones. Some were raped in the offices of men of God. There were virgins who were raped because there is a believe that when they sleep with virgins the blood spills and that is how they sacrifice to their gods and that is how their prophecies are made accurate. So it is real some of the girls were threatened not to speak. Some were bribed with money so that they don�t speak.�

Professional Counsellor and the President of Botswana Counselling Association, Tshepo Shoshong shared with WeekendLife that women need to take precaution when they go out and that they should be aware of the places they are going to.

�Women are too trusting and they should learn to make boundaries when it comes to issues of trust. Some people they meet them through social media, and they are comfortable with meeting them in their private spaces. Women should avoid meeting these men in private and enclosed places.

It is dangerous to meet someone at their home when you barely know them. Most of the time it is difficult to go and report these men because they went to meet them at their homes. When on a date women need to trust their gut feeling,� he said.