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How I was date raped by a Pastor

BOGADI SERUMOLA

Very seldom do women come out and talk about the atrocities they face at the hands of so called ‘Men of God’, and even when they do, rarely are the allegations purported against these wolf in sheep’s clothing taken seriously.

Author of ‘Sex keeps a Man’, Bogadi Serumola, has taken a leap and told her story against her pastor and former lover. Serumola, a nurse by profession, tells of how she was raped by the revered Man of God. The ordeal has left Serumola shattered.

According to Serumola, the two had met online. The pastor had sent her a Direct Message (DM) on Facebook, the conversation then shifted to WhatsApp and before long the two were going on dates and later became an official couple. For Serumola, it had always been a dream to marry a Man of God and the presence of a pastor in her life led her to believe that she had finally met the one for her.

“When he in boxed me I went through his profile and I noticed he was a Prophet. So I was happy that I will be called mummy. This happened in 2017 and I had always wished to be married to a Pastor, so having that guy proposing was like a dream come true. I was over the moon,” she said.

At the time of the alleged rape incident, Serumola was a young college student at the Institute of Health Sciences. The alleged perpetrator lived in Mahalapye whereas Serumola was based in Gaborone.

The Pastor finally made his way to Gaborone with the intention to meet the young Serumola. He had gone as far as to make reservations at a guesthouse for the two of them. Initially Serumola was sceptical about whether she was safe with a man she barely knew but the relentless persistence softened up the gullible young lad and she gave in.

According to Serumola, the pastor was conducting one of his sessions at the said guesthouse and he argued that it would be easier and more convenient for them to meet at the guesthouse. “At the time I was doing second year at Institute of Health Sciences. I was looking forward to meeting this guy as he was staying in Mahalapye and I was staying in Gaborone.

This guy literally did everything to make me happy and I was really looking forward to building a future with him. He told me everything about his church and I was looking forward to being his support system. I excitedly told my best friend about this great guy I met.

“So he came and picked me up at school and we went to the guest house. Prior to that he introduced me to his protocol team as ‘mummy’. That made me feel good and happy, I felt like I finally met the one guy I had been waiting for. When we got to the guest house, we started talking about relationships, and I told him I am the sex after marriage type.

Which he said he believes in having sex with his partner, otherwise he wouldn’t want to go outside to get it while he is still with me,” she said.
Serumola says that her rapist used an old tactic of asking for a back massage and then he later proceeded to molest her behind locked doors before he forced himself on her.

“So as we were talking, he told me that he is having a back pain and that he needed a massage. So he went to close the room curtains because he said he needed some privacy. As we continued talking he started kissing me, and whispering sweet nothings in my ear, he even started touching me. I noticed he was going too far and I tried to stop him but he told me that he can get that anywhere else.

I told him I was on my period and he went to get a towel to show me how it is done,” said Serumola. Serumola describes how hard she fought in vain with the man twice her weight. She recalls how she cried bitterly, pleading with the man of God to stop but he would not relent until he had his way with her.

“At that time I felt like dirt, I felt really bad and I told him to take me back to school,” she lamented.After the incident, she went into a stage of denial which made it hard for her to heal, until she decided to face it and heal.

“After everything, I felt insecure about a lot of things, my body and I were in denial that it happened. First thing for my healing I had to acknowledge that it happened. Accepted that he did that to me. I talked to someone and I lived in the moment, then I started to forgive myself and him,” she said.
How occult Pastors use women.

According to close sources, a lot of men of God are sleeping with women to feed their occultist powers. “In the occultism world what is happening is that the more you sleep with women the more your powers are enhanced and you are able to prophesy better. There is a lot that they are using to attract these women, to an extent that some get raped. Some are raped aware, some unaware,” he said.

“Most of them that I have counselled they went for prayers and one on ones. Some were raped in the offices of men of God. There were virgins who were raped because there is a believe that when they sleep with virgins the blood spills and that is how they sacrifice to their gods and that is how their prophecies are made accurate. So it is real some of the girls were threatened not to speak. Some were bribed with money so that they don’t speak.”

Professional Counsellor and the President of Botswana Counselling Association, Tshepo Shoshong shared with WeekendLife that women need to take precaution when they go out and that they should be aware of the places they are going to.

“Women are too trusting and they should learn to make boundaries when it comes to issues of trust. Some people they meet them through social media, and they are comfortable with meeting them in their private spaces. Women should avoid meeting these men in private and enclosed places.

It is dangerous to meet someone at their home when you barely know them. Most of the time it is difficult to go and report these men because they went to meet them at their homes. When on a date women need to trust their gut feeling,” he said.

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Top Model Botswana 4th edition paused

4th August 2020

While some find it hard to survive in the entertainment sector, modelling is one of the few careers that has been taking shape in the creative sector in the country. Top Model Botswana is one of the set platforms that gives models a scarce opportunity and a chance to be uncovered and to take their talent to bigger runways.

Their aim is to see the models being scouted by international brands. However, like many other sectors which have been affected by the global pandemic (Covid-19), Top Model Botswana has paused as they are waiting for the situation to stabilize. While they are waiting to complete their 3rd edition, the idea of the 4th edition of the series had to be shelved for the time being. The event organisers have promised to communicate as and when auditions for the fourth edition will be opened.

“Well, honestly this year we didn’t do anything. Early this year we had to have the grand finale of Top Model Botswana 3rd edition which was a continuation of last‘s year edition. But due to this pandemic that the world is facing, we could not go head and finish the 3rd edition. We had decided to just pause this year and continue next year,” Simon Pierre shared with WeekendLife.

Organisers of the event annually rummage rural areas in search of models who are not adequately exposed to be identified as models. “For the 4th edition which was to be this year, my team and I had decided to bring a little twist to how we have been doing things in favour of the models. We decided to change our ways of carrying out Top Model competition.

Initially Top Model Botswana had auditions all over Botswana and we often sent agents to places we can’t reach. After auditions, each town will compete in their respective town, then they all meet when we are approaching final stages,” he said. “But this year our idea was that, we will only audition one town each year. So we will be rotating each year in different places. If this year is Palapye, then we will only focus on Palapye, but sadly we were not able to go ahead with our plan due to corona.”

Top Model Botswana is known for producing seasoned models year in and year out, with some modelling careers enhanced and taken to greater platforms. Kakanyetso Gabatsholwe is one of the models who was scouted by Top Model Botswana and today she is signed under Isis Model Africa in Johannesburg, South Africa. She is also the winner of Top Model 2017.

Top Model Botswana was adopted from the American reality television series in which a number of aspiring models competed for the title of “America’s Next Top Model” and a chance to begin their career in the modelling industry. The famous model show was the brain-child of American model, Tyra Banks.

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Top Model Botswana 4th edition paused

4th August 2020

While some find it hard to survive in the entertainment sector, modelling is one of the few careers that has been taking shape in the creative sector in the country. Top Model Botswana is one of the set platforms that gives models a scarce opportunity and a chance to be uncovered and to take their talent to bigger runways.

Their aim is to see the models being scouted by international brands. However, like many other sectors which have been affected by the global pandemic (Covid-19), Top Model Botswana has paused as they are waiting for the situation to stabilize. While they are waiting to complete their 3rd edition, the idea of the 4th edition of the series had to be shelved for the time being.

The event organisers have promised to communicate as and when auditions for the fourth edition will be opened. “Well, honestly this year we didn’t do anything. Early this year we had to have the grand finale of Top Model Botswana 3rd edition which was a continuation of last‘s year edition. But due to this pandemic that the world is facing, we could not go head and finish the 3rd edition.

We had decided to just pause this year and continue next year,” Simon Pierre shared with WeekendLife. Organisers of the event annually rummage rural areas in search of models who are not adequately exposed to be identified as models.

“For the 4th edition which was to be this year, my team and I had decided to bring a little twist to how we have been doing things in favour of the models. We decided to change our ways of carrying out Top Model competition. Initially Top Model Botswana had auditions all over Botswana and we often sent agents to places we can’t reach.

After auditions, each town will compete in their respective town, then they all meet when we are approaching final stages,” he said. “But this year our idea was that, we will only audition one town each year. So we will be rotating each year in different places. If this year is Palapye, then we will only focus on Palapye, but sadly we were not able to go ahead with our plan due to corona.”

Top Model Botswana is known for producing seasoned models year in and year out, with some modelling careers enhanced and taken to greater platforms. Kakanyetso Gabatsholwe is one of the models who was scouted by Top Model Botswana and today she is signed under Isis Model Africa in Johannesburg, South Africa. She is also the winner of Top Model 2017.

Top Model Botswana was adopted from the American reality television series in which a number of aspiring models competed for the title of “America’s Next Top Model” and a chance to begin their career in the modelling industry. The famous model show was the brain-child of American model, Tyra Banks.

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Major Moves Comedy back at it again

4th August 2020

Known for staging hilarious comedians both locally and internationally, Major Moves Comedy has made its returns this year after being absent due to the outbreak of Covid-19. The comedy show is back again with yet another rib cracking line-up for their up-coming monthly event, which will be on the 7th of August at Cresta President Hotel.

Before the scourge of the coronavirus, the comedy show which featured comedians from Botswana, Zambia and South Africa, was staged every Friday night. For the time being and because of the Covid-19 regulations, the current line-up will be filled by local talent only. The likes of; Boniface ‘Roy’ Phetolo, Queen of comedy Malebogo ‘Lebo English’ Lekgowa, funny-man Maatla Ephraim Basha, as well as Ndiye ‘Triccs’ Tampa. The familiar face of Onkgopotse ‘Mdala Ka Tjeludo’ Mugende will be the host for the night.

The event will also bring upcoming comedians to the fore and give them a chance to share the stage with established acts. “Since lockdown, comedians have been longing to showcase their talent on stage. With the new normal, most have used different social media platforms, however for stand-up comedians the stage is still the best place for them to showcase.

With these monthly events we also develop and nurture talent especially those who have been active on social media. This is in our quest to create a sustainable market and monetizing the talent,” said events coordinator for Major Moves Comedy, Gaolathe Kediemetse.

The event will follow the Covid-19 regulations as prescribed by the Presidential Covid-19 Task Force Team and thus patrons will among others be required to; put on masks, register to get into the event, sanitize, and practice social distancing. The show will be expected to last nothing more than two hours, this also as per Covid-19 regulations.

“We are excited to be hosting the event under the new normal and will be following the Covid-19 regulations. We have limited tickets available for the event which will also enable social distancing and we will have a dedicated Safety Officer to ensure the regulations are being followed.

We want to develop and contribute positively to the lives of the comedians while protecting the health of our patrons”, added Mr Kediemetse. The venue sponsor is Cresta President Hotel and tickets are available at Web tickets and Spar outlets. Prices range from P200 (single) and P300 (double). The show starts at 8pm.

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