Wow it’s amazing how time flies. It is difficult to believe that within a day or two Muslims the world over will be finishing their fasting in the Holy month of Ramadhan.
In this blessed month of Ramadan, we have now come to the grand finale – the last ten days of Ramadan that are even regarded as very special. Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) said: “There has come to you Ramadan, a blessed month which Allah has enjoined you to fast, during which the gates of heaven are opened and the gates of Hell are closed, and the rebellious devils are chained up.
The last ten days of fasting which are considered special days because amongst them is a night called Lailatul Qadr – ‘the Night of Power’. It was on this very night that the Quran was sent down. Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) said; ‘seek the night of power (praying, performing night prayers and doing noble deeds during the last ten days of Ramadan’. He further said: ‘the night of power is better than thousand months’. Therefore we believe that any good actions / deeds / prayers that we do during this time will be Blessed by a thousand times. Hence Muslims make special efforts to ‘find’ the night of those special blessings.
Ramadhan gives Muslims the opportunity ‘to recharge their spiritual batteries’. Just like a car needs regular servicing, the month of Ramadan is that time when Muslims recharge their spiritual self and taking this as a month for transformation, unleashing the potential within by taking control of ourselves, our thoughts and our actions and to take lessons from and to change for the better.
Fasting is not about merely abstaining from eating and drinking from pre-dawn to sunset. Its real purpose is spiritual cleansing and becoming a good human being. It is a month dedicated to burning sins rather than burning calories.
As Muslims we must look back and honestly ask ourselves; have we fulfilled the requirements of God consciousness and graduated from the intensive training of the School of Ramadan with the ‘diploma of piousness and closeness to Allah’: and, have we renewed our commitment and re-established our relationship and drawn closer to our Lord? Have we fought our earthly desires and wants and put them to rest or even defeated them, or will we return to our love for our worldly pleasures, desires, passions, and return to them immediately the month is over?
Remember change has to come from within us: “Verily, Allah does not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.” (Quran 13: 11)
This month gave us the opportunity for lifestyle changes that bring us closer to our Lord and Creator. We showed commitment and dedication by observing our five daily prayers, many of us have taken up and read every chapter, verse and page of the Quran from the beginning to end. We were in a state of righteous consciousness in our daily behaviour and actions. We refrained from our usual earthly, vain and immoral past times, forbidden and indecent behaviour; of lying, backbiting, of vulgar speech and crude behaviour; living with jealousy and hatred for others and other human frailties.
Regrettably for some of us will run short of steam in our dedication and commitment that we showed during that month; slowly we start going downhill in many ways, including: neglecting after having diligently observed our obligatory five times daily prayers during the entire month and returning to our old ways.
Besides the obligatory five daily prayers, Muslims will try to make time during the night in engaging in additional voluntary prayers known as Tahajjud. Waking up in the middle of the night for prayer is mentioned in the Quran, “Verily, getting up at night is the most potent means of governing the soul most effective in respect of words of prayer” (Quran 73:6)
Recitation of the Quran
Individually completing the recitation of the entire Quran during the month of Ramadan is a regular practice that Muslims will have followed. During this time we should ponder over the message of the Quran by reciting it “and recite the Quran in slow measured rhythmic tones” (Quran 73: 4). Reciting the Quran daily is a desirable practice.
Retreat in the Mosque (Itikaf)
Some Muslims retreat into the Mosques during the entire last ten days of Ramadan in total seclusion (Itikaf), away from their families and work. The purpose of Itikaf is to disassociate oneself from worldly life and daily chores altogether for a specified period of time and devote oneself completely to the pursuit of God.
The Night of Destiny
However even though the countdown has begun the last ten days have already arrived and are almost over. These days are very special to Muslims because these last ten days of Ramadan have a particular significance in the Islamic tradition.
During these last ten days of Ramadan, Muslims will seek the night of destiny, which is mentioned in the Quran in these words: “And what will explain to you what the Night of Power is? ……The Night of Power is better than a thousand months” (97: 2-3).
This means that a single night in which one recognizes his/her Creator is better than a lifetime that is spent in ignorance. This is also the night that the first verse of the Quran was revealed. It is believed that the night falls on one of the odd numbered nights.
Therefore we spend the last ten days in earnest prayer, seeking forgiveness and praying for Blessings with the wish that we get the Blessings of that night. But as the month draws to a close many Muslims will not only look forward to it returning next year feeling happy because there is an oasis of peace that has refreshed our soul.
Will we leave this glorious month that was filled with the regular reading of the Qur’an, God consciousness / piety, patience, inner struggle, mercy, forgiveness and inner peace? We need to honestly interrogate ourselves did we learn anything from the month of Ramadan?
We should be grateful to the Almighty for having given us this life changing opportunity to cleanse our hearts, spirit and soul, and we should continue to with all the righteous deeds and actions that were our daily companions throughout the month of fasting. ‘If you are grateful, I will surely add more favours to you. But if you show ingratitude My punishment is terrible indeed’. (Quran 14: 7).
With end of Ramadan the message is clear, a Muslim must be in a constant state of obedience to Allah, firm upon following His Law, steadfast upon His belief, so that we are not of those who worship Allah only during this one month.
We must remember that righteous actions and good deeds are for all times and all places, and not only reserved for Ramadan, so we must continue to strive. As they say – Aluta Continua – ‘let the battle continue’. So let us be wary of laziness and we should not fall behind in our religious obligations nor delay them. Neither should we fall into those forbidden and sinful actions and behaviour that we avoided for the whole month.
Let me wish all Muslim brothers and sisters a joyous and peaceful day, and I pray that Almighty Allah accept all our efforts to sincerely fast and to forgive us if we may have erred in any way. I pray too that may we all live with the revived spiritual awareness that this Holy month brought to us. Eid Mubarak!
Seventy-seven years ago, on the evening of December 2, 1943, the Germans launched a surprise air raid on allied shipping in the Italian port of Bari, which was then the key supply centre for the British 8th army’s advance in Italy.
The attack was spearheaded by 105 Junkers JU88 bombers under the overall command of the infamous Air Marshal Wolfram von Richthofen (who had initially achieved international notoriety during the Spanish Civil War for his aerial bombardment of Guernica). In a little over an hour the German aircraft succeeded in sinking 28 transport and cargo ships, while further inflicting massive damage to the harbour’s facilities, resulting in the port being effectively put out of action for two months.
Over two thousand ground personnel were killed during the raid, with the release of a secret supply of mustard gas aboard one of the destroyed ships contributing to the death toll, as well as subsequent military and civilian casualties. The extent of the later is a controversy due to the fact that the American and British governments subsequently covered up the presence of the gas for decades.
At least five Batswana were killed and seven critically wounded during the raid, with one of the wounded being miraculously rescued floating unconscious out to sea with a head wound. He had been given up for dead when he returned to his unit fourteen days later. The fatalities and casualties all occurred when the enemy hit an ammunition ship adjacent to where 24 Batswana members of the African Pioneer Corps (APC) 1979 Smoke Company where posted.
Thereafter, the dozen surviving members of the unit distinguished themselves for their efficiency in putting up and maintaining smokescreens in their sector, which was credited with saving additional shipping. For his personal heroism in rallying his men following the initial explosions Company Corporal Chitu Bakombi was awarded the British Empire Medal, while his superior officer, Lieutenant N.F. Moor was later given an M.B.E.
Remember: bricks and cement are used to build a house, but mutual love, respect and companionship are used to build a HOME. And amongst His signs is this: He creates for you mates out of your own kind, so that you may find contentment (Sukoon) with them, and He engenders love and tenderness between you; in this behold, there are signs (messages) indeed for people who reflect and think (Quran 30:21).
This verse talks about contentment; this implies companionship, of their being together, sharing together, supporting one another and creating a home of peace. This verse also talks about love between them; this love is both physical and emotional. For love to exist it must be built on the foundation of a mutually supportive relationship guided by respect and tenderness. As the Quran says; ‘they are like garments for you, and you are garments for them (Quran 2:187)’. That means spouses should provide each other with comfort, intimacy and protection just as clothing protects, warms and dignifies the body.
In Islam marriage is considered an ‘ibaadah’, (an act of pleasing Allah) because it is about a commitment made to each other, that is built on mutual love, interdependence, integrity, trust, respect, companionship and harmony towards each other. It is about building of a home on an Islamic foundation in which peace and tranquillity reigns wherein your offspring are raised in an atmosphere conducive to a moral and upright upbringing so that when we all stand before Him (Allah) on that Promised Day, He will be pleased with them all.
Most marriages start out with great hopes and rosy dreams; spouses are truly committed to making their marriages work. However, as the pressures of life mount, many marriages change over time and it is quite common for some of them to run into problems and start to flounder as the reality of living with a spouse that does not meet with one’s pre-conceived ‘expectations’. However, with hard work and dedication, couples can keep their marriages strong and enjoyable. How is it done? What does it take to create a long-lasting, satisfying marriage?
Below are some of the points that have been taken from a marriage guidance article I read recently and adapted for this purposes.
POSITIVITY Spouses should have far more positive than negative interactions. If there is too much negativity — criticizing, demanding, name-calling, holding grudges, etc. — the relationship will suffer. However, if there is never any negativity, it probably means that frustrations and grievances are not getting ‘air time’ and unresolved tension is accumulating inside one or both partners waiting to ‘explode’ one day.
“Let not some men among you laugh at others: it may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): nor let some women laugh at others: it may be that the (latter) are better than the (former): nor defame nor be sarcastic to each other, nor call each other by (offensive) nicknames.” (49:11)
We all have our individual faults though we may not see them nor want to admit to them but we will easily identify them in others. The key is balance between the two extremes and being supportive of one another. To foster positivity in a marriage that help make them stable and happy, being affectionate, truly listening to each other, taking joy in each other’s achievements and being playful are just a few examples of positive interactions. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best character and the best of you are those who are best to their wives”
Another characteristic of happy marriages is empathy; understanding your spouses’ perspective by putting oneself in his or her shoes. By showing that understanding and identifying with your spouse is important for relationship satisfaction. Spouses are more likely to feel good about their marriage and if their partner expresses empathy towards them. Husbands and wives are more content in their relationships when they feel that their partners understand their thoughts and feelings.
Successful married couples grow with each other; it simply isn’t wise to put any person in charge of your happiness. You must be happy with yourself before anyone else can be. You are responsible for your actions, your attitudes and your happiness. Your spouse just enhances those things in your life. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “Treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers.”
Successful marriages involve both spouses’ commitment to the relationship. The married couple should learn the art of compromise and this usually takes years. The largest parts of compromise are openness to the other’s point of view and good communication when differences arise.
When two people are truly dedicated to making their marriage work, despite the unavoidable challenges and obstacles that come, they are much more likely to have a relationship that lasts. Husbands and wives who only focus on themselves and their own desires are not as likely to find joy and satisfaction in their relationships.
Another basic need in a relationship is each partner wants to feel valued and respected. When people feel that their spouses truly accept them for who they are, they are usually more secure and confident in their relationships. Often, there is conflict in marriage because partners cannot accept the individual preferences of their spouses and try to demand change from one another. When one person tries to force change from another, he or she is usually met with resistance.
However, change is much more likely to occur when spouses respect differences and accept each other unconditionally. Basic acceptance is vital to a happy marriage. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: “It is the generous (in character) who is good to women, and it is the wicked who insults them.” “Overlook (any human faults) with gracious forgiveness.” (Quran 15:85)
COMPASSION, MUTUAL LOVE AND RESPECT
Other important components of successful marriages are love, compassion and respect for each other. The fact is, as time passes and life becomes increasingly complicated, the marriage is often stressed and suffers as a result. A happy and successful marriage is based on equality. When one or the other dominates strongly, intimacy is replaced by fear of displeasing.
It is all too easy for spouses to lose touch with each other and neglect the love and romance that once came so easily. It is vital that husbands and wives continue to cultivate love and respect for each other throughout their lives. If they do, it is highly likely that their relationships will remain happy and satisfying. Move beyond the fantasy and unrealistic expectations and realize that marriage is about making a conscious choice to love and care for your spouse-even when you do not feel like it.
Seldom can one love someone for whom we have no respect. This also means that we have to learn to overlook and forgive the mistakes of one’s partner. In other words write the good about your partner in stone and the bad in dust, so that when the wind comes it blows away the bad and only the good remains.
Paramount of all, marriage must be based on the teachings of the Noble Qur’an and the teachings and guidance of our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). To grow spiritually in your marriage requires that you learn to be less selfish and more loving, even during times of conflict. A marriage needs love, support, tolerance, honesty, respect, humility, realistic expectations and a sense of humour to be successful.
The past week or two has been a mixed grill of briefs in so far as the national employment picture is concerned. BDC just injected a further P64 million in Kromberg & Schubert, the automotive cable manufacturer and exporter, to help keep it afloat in the face of the COVID-19-engendered global economic apocalypse. The financial lifeline, which follows an earlier P36 million way back in 2017, hopefully guarantees the jobs of 2500, maybe for another year or two.
It was also reported that a bulb manufacturing company, which is two years old and is youth-led, is making waves in Selibe Phikwe. Called Bulb Word, it is the only bulb manufacturing operation in Botswana and employs 60 people. The figure is not insignificant in a town that had 5000 jobs offloaded in one fell swoop when BCL closed shop in 2016 under seemingly contrived circumstances, so that as I write, two or three buyers have submitted bids to acquire and exhume it from its stage-managed grave.