When the year 2020 took off, there was great excitement and hope for a bright and exciting chapter for many people. Among those who glorified 2020 were performing artists – they scheduled a plethora of events and music shows that were eagerly awaited by fans.
All of these planned activities collapsed with the outbreak of COVID-19 and the subsequent State of Emergency declared by President Dr Mokgweetsi Masisi. The extreme social distancing restriction has scattered and shattered dreams! Artists feel they got the sharp end of the deadly pandemic as their daily bread and butter comes from the creative industry. Most artists are currently at home clinging to the hope that government consider them as well as the many employed within the creative industry.
Things have gone from bad to worse for the music industry as the country gears up for a six months State of Emergency despite the fact that 28 days extreme social distancing concludes end of this month. There is a chance of an extension though. Artists say they face a possible bleak and hungry future as they do not know where their source of income would be as long as the extreme social distancing measures are in place.
WeekendLife took time to dialogue with some of the artists to hear how they are coping with the lockdown.“Pretty much like everyone else I am in lockdown and can’t work because people are not allowed to assemble. Festivals and conferences have been cancelled or postponed and at this rate even those postponed may not even happen later in the year. Indications are showing that things will come back to normal in 2021.
I was booked for a lot of festivals in Botswana and internationally as well as for some conferences. I also had my own events organised for Sereetsi & The Natives’ 5th year anniversary. I had recording sessions lined up. All these cannot happen because of this extreme social distancing. Right now I can’t earn a living because I am stuck at home,” local Jazz sensation Tomeletso Sereetsi of Sereetsi and the Natives shared with WeekendLife.
He further stated that, though this may seem hard for him, he has decided to use this time to do things that matter the most to him. “On the flipside, this is a chance for me to spend time with family, recharge my batteries and reflect on my work and my place in the world. It is also an opportunity to create new music and strategise for the new post COVID-19 environment. As they say “adapt or die”, it is time to prime myself not to be left behind in the ensuing new business normal.”
“I will be hosting online concerts for as long as the lockdown continues. People need music to take their spirits off the gloom and doom of Covid-19. I had my first Facebook Live concert on my artist page which was a resounding success. It went for well over, 1hour 30 minutes. The demand for another one was huge. As part of the concerts, I am sharing words of encouragement as well as messages from health officials.
I have also contributed to the Covid-19 campaign on BWGovernment. It is not rocket science that Covid-19 lockdown means that artists cannot earn a living. The online concert is part of an effort to raise a buck and hopefully, be able to also contribute to the national Covid-19 Relief Fund.”The next Facebook Live concert session is slated for Thursday 23 April 2020 at 7:30pm.
“The concert series is called Serubing Live Session 2. The first was Serubing Session 1. Music lovers can tune in to the live concert by liking and following my artist page so that they are alerted of the performances when they happen,” he said. Sereetsi urged government to include artists in the relief fund. “Government should help the creative sector as well because it employs a lot of people as well. It may be largely informal but it is feeding a lot of families. It also deserves a rescue package. The creative sector should be included in P2billion government rescue package,” he said.
Meanwhile songbird Amantle Brown, shared with WeekendLife that she was booked for three shows and they had to be cancelled. The songstress is home wondering where her bread will come from. “This lockdown has locked us down indeed, some of us have been on lockdown before lockdown even began. The financial side of things is showing us dust. For me it’s cool because I have a studio in my house, but coming to think of it, I do not have money and I do not know how I am going to make money.
I am just wondering if these people are thinking of us, are we even considered in anything. The lockdown is something I wish to never happen again,” she lamented.Brown has currently set up a mini studio at home where records her music, and spends most of her time. Rhumba veteran, Franco was one of the artists who was anticipating a successful and great turn up for his much talked about Soul Fill up event. Unfortunately, like many other events this one too had to take the back seat due to the pandemic. In an almost defeated like move, the Kwasa Kwasa star has also stopped his rehearsals.
“It is a sad reality we all have to face at this point in time, we are all disappointed and sad for not being able to host a show we planned really well for. Frank is a man who is not shy to show his emotions, he was noticeably sad at what unfolded, not just for the show but mostly because of people losing their lives all over the world.
Currently no rehearsals are going on, no recordings are going on and there is no income at all. He will continue to take care of his staff in the best way possible. We shall all come back better and stronger, we are still 100% optimistic that one day we shall deliver,” said Kabelo “K-lo” Oanthata, the Public Relations Officer for Soul fill up with Franco
“Khiring khorong” hitmaker, Atasaone Molemogi otherwise known as ATI said: “Batswana ba thomola Pelo, do you know hunger tota. I just want to say that there is karma and it’s well on its way for anybody who put their belly in exchange for the livelihood of the people. The people might pay the heavy price of naive decision making in who they so dearly trust to lead them.
But the great revelation will call for an occurrence never witnessed before in the eyes of the oppressed and the oppressor. This awkward paradigm will see the powerful become powerless and the powerless with divine protection. Mark my words. Something big is unfolding. Truth or dare is the nature of this kind of flair.”
Wherever public figures go, their followers expect class, couture and elegance. It is of course expected if you are a public figure.
It looks like a stress-free job with free-passes to top red carpet events, behind-the-scenes snaps and exclusive interviews with lifestyle journalists, popping champagne and cashing coin from appearance fees but it is a whole struggle.
One ought to look the part every time, or else fashion police will be dragging them on social media. Talking about being dragged and humiliated on social media for an unflattering outfit, TV personality and socialite Sadi Dikgaka was at one point publicly trolled for appearing on TV wearing an unflattering pink jumpsuit.
One wardrobe malfunction cannot deem Sadi tacky- not by a long shot. She was just unfortunate that day that she picked the wrong piece, but she has constantly served her followers on Instagram the best from her closet.
Now that she is a brand ambassador for Options Botswana, her style includes romantic dresses with detailed sleeves from Options, making her serve a million dollar style. She says she lives for drama! Some of her sizzling designs are from Versatile Creations, and I would love to believe these are local fashion designers.
Prominent corporate MC, voice over artist, radio journalist and an aspiring farmer, Oratile Kefitlhile is proving that there is more to her. She has killer taste in clothes, and she has proven to be an unstoppable force in the fashion world and her Instagram followers can attest to that. In fact, they just like her stunning looks.
Just like Sadi Dikgaka working with Options Botswana, she earned herself a worthwhile contract with Standard Chartered Bank as their social media influencer, pushing their SC Mobile App. She has continued to serve her impeccable style on Instagram with most of her designs from Dihdah BW. Dihdah BW are a young couple dedicated to change the fashion landscape in the country, and they are effortlessly doing the things.
Just this week, she broke down Instagram with spunky looks and super glam picks from Every Day BW. If there is anyone in the celebrity world defining feminism, she can be the only pick, well at least from Weekend Life.
After keeping his followers anxious about his surprise, radio and TV personality who is also a brand ambassador for Durex, Loungo Pitse’s fashion sense cannot be ignored. He is always serving bomb looks, whether he is wearing his designer suits or just a casual wear being out for tea or having an informal meeting just somewhere around the capital city.
On his birthday early this year, Pitse’s suit from Gudah Designs looked classic, elegant and bold. His Instagram followers be drooling over his fashion choices and eager to know where he gets her stuff. If he is not wearing Gudah Designs, he checks on Black Thrash designers or Elite Gentleman as well as Justice Maverick Hubane for footwear to match his extravagant designer outfits.
Digital content creator, blogger and fashion stylist, Tumie Nthutang doesn’t only know how to dress celebrities by the book, she always turns on the heat on her Gram page. Her followers would want to get their hands on her looks every single time, and Weekend Life did already.
Her latest offering on Instagram was from her wardrobe but she managed to put together everything, leaving a golden touch to her followers. Of course she loves toying with colourful prints and playful pieces together with chunky earrings and hairpieces from The Makeover Place.
She attended Gaona Dintwe’s thanksgiving dinner with a bubbly golden dress that covered every vibe at the event that was exclusive to certain A-listers. The girls gathered together to reflect on the devastating 2020.
Kagiso Sento might have been making headlines for all the wrong reasons recently, but this Shell Botswana and Renne Make Up ambassador always keeps her outfits effortlessly cool. To be honest, she could wear a paper bag and her followers would probably like it.
She served a hot yellow look with an African-print dress from Faddi Official just recently, and Weekend Life couldn’t ignore the navy-blue dress with detailed sleeves she wore last year. A black and white blazer from KLS Collections also was never to be ignored.
Award-winning songstress and radio host Samantha Mogwe’s fashion taste is one of a kind, and her Instagram account details her style looks from head to toe. Knowing pretty well how to serve themed-outfits, Mogwe would blow her followers away and she never cease to amaze Weekend Life.
Gone are the days when a woman’s capability was limited to the kitchen walls and being house wives. The narration has changed over the years and women have made their voices heard, taking up space in all spheres of influence.
Today women can serve as Presidents as Members of Parliament as well as Chief Executive Officers. Offices which were only dominated or deemed fit for men. Whether or not women who hold powerful position are a threat to men, no one can say for sure but there are a handful of men who can’t stand a woman’s tenacity, zeal and power. So much so that they end up trying by all means to pull them down.
While that is the case with some men, some find powerful women smart and mostly attracted to them. While some men may find it a bitter pill to swallow that their women bring home the bread, there are a few rare bred men who go over and beyond for women in powerful positions, helping them in any way they can.
In a study led by Ekaterina Netchaeva, Ph.D., at Bocconi University in Italy, Netchaeva concluded that from an unjustified manhood theory, that when a woman occupies a superior organizational role, men in subordinate positions experience it as a threat, which leads them to behave more assertively towards her and advocate for themselves.
Status is not the only thing that make men feel threatened and inferior; gender and status kills their manhood. This also because they prefer to be pushy in the work place. “Clearly, this is problematic for the many talented, determined women trying to break through the glass ceiling — or simply earn a living,” said the study.
In an interview with WeekendPostsome women have admitted to have experienced being pulled down by men. Makgato Malesu is one of the most powerful women, who said that at some point men questioned how she made it to the top. But that did not stop her from soaring. Today she serves in the highest position in international community.
Being a leading Creative Entrepreneur, Masego Manyaapelo said she had experienced intimidations by men who were her clients. Which she said it was a bizarre combination of sexism and chauvinism.
“More women are holding positions of power and influence in the workspace. This is something that has become the new norm. Men are finding it exceptionally difficult to accept the reality that women are just as competent and sometimes even more than they are. Women climb the corporate ladder faster because they have a lot more to prove and a lot more to lose than their counterparts. For this reason, men are intimidated by the ‘new normal’ in the workplace,” Manyaapelo said.
While some men have evolved with time and are now at ease with the dynamics about women in leadership some men have come to esteem women who hold strong positions. Currently leading as Communications Manager at MassMart, a holding company for trading brands like Game Stores, Builders World, Jumbo, Makro, Cambridge and many more, Tinabo Majaye highlighted that she had never been intimidated by her male counterparts.
“As a young hardworking and ambitious woman who was born and raised in Botswana but working in South Africa’s highly competitive corporate world, gender based power imbalances in the work place have never been an issue for me. I personally have never had judgement in my areas of expertise, questioned nor have I ever had to provide more evidence of my competence than my male counterparts,” she said.
“This is largely attributable to having worked with modern, liberal and progressive men who believe in the advancement of women in the workplace based on their credentials, capabilities and work ethic.” Senior Human Resource Manager at De Beers Matlhogonolo Mponang, has served in different leadership roles which she has executed with utmost excellence and without batting an eye. Mponang begs to differ that men are intimidated by women in powerful positions.
“I think it is unfair to single out men within a general population of varied people. I think I have made people uncomfortable, not because they were male and I was female but simply because I have such a strong personality and I have never had a problem with speaking truth to power, as long as I believed the truth served a greater good and represented my values. As for intimidation. I think people in general are intimidated but anything different from them- especially if the person in question is generally not comfortable with change,” she said.
“I have definitely at some points in my professional life felt that there were waves of subjugation but it was not from any one demographic and it wasn’t always from my superiors. Being radical and transformational means that you will sometimes meet with violent or non-violent opposition. It is not so much a construct of gender or more specifically about men being intimidated by women. It is a human and universal reaction to anything that challenges the status quo.”
MEN’S OPINIONS ABOUT POWERFUL WOMEN
“Truth is women in leadership positions or even those who are just doing well for themselves intimidate men. We say it’s not so and we want our women to do great things but one thing that shows the intimidation is how men fear approaching such women to ask them out. Men question their abilities when they see such, if they are their types, if they can maintain them and if her independence won’t degrade their masculinity,” Joseph Pharatlhatlhe said, a teacher by Profession.
“I don’t know the statistics but I’m pretty sure a good number of women in leadership stay single for a long time lest some male superior to them comes into the picture or the lady herself brings herself down to point of asking a man out or even dating younger men. Ladies most of the time are like slay queens, they are very choosy and when they let you down they hurt your ego big time because it would have taken a lot for you to approach.”
Transformational Speaker, Uyapoh Letus also attested to the fact that some men find it hard to stand a woman who is powerful and have her game together. “It is really about cultural background and our upbringing. In our society almost every person grew up knowing that men kind of hold the high position. Men are considered most powerful and that he comes first. Everyone grows up in this believe. As we grow in this cooperate spaces. We take these believes to our work place,” he said.
“It is so difficult for some men accept having a lady leading them in an organisation. They find it very difficult to take instruction from them. They also find it difficult to believe that a woman is leading them. Lawrence Ookeditse an independent researcher and Convener of the Botswana Jobs Summit, also a former Director of Youth/Policy Specialist for the Government of Botswana in the Ministry of Youth Empowerment Sport and Culture Development when quizzed said, it is an issue of power itself.
“The power dynamics have been shaped in a very realistic, survival and self-preservation orientated. Meaning everyone who wants power, they go out for the kill because they also want to survive. It is about being in the position to take over. The problem is power itself, because power is public good. I don’t think it is a case of men intimidated by women particularly. Men are also intimidated by other men. Human beings are naturally self-interested,” he said.
“Women who hold powerful positions usually perform well. That I think we could look into a comprehensive study. The key thing also is we must create space for fairness, competitiveness that it should not matter whether you are a men or a woman.
It should be about merit and it should ensure that artificial barriers are removed for women to be able to participate to reach their full potential. The problem is there are often barriers for entry for women. That limit them from participating like men. The system has been rigged and the system needs to be fixed.”
It goes without saying that men and women handle pain differently. Especially emotional pain. Men tend to be more emotionally immature compared to women when it comes to matters of the heart.
It is for this reason that men do not handle break ups or cheating as well as their counterparts. Where women have been groomed from a young age to express their emotions men have been told to “suck it up and be a man”. This may be one of the reasons why men are unable to express their emotions. It’s therefore that it can be a tad bit surprising that men cheat the most but are the weakest to deal when cheated on.
Research has proven that men find it difficult to digest being cheated on. British Psychotherapist, Philip Hodson opines that men find it hard to forgive cheating because it affects their masculinity, and to them, it might signal the end of the relationship.
“Men can forgive themselves for their indiscretions, but they find it much harder to forgive their partners for the same. For a betrayed woman, an affair by a man is an offence against her dignity, but for a betrayed man, a woman’s infidelity is an offence against his manhood. It goes right to the core of his identity,” said Hodson.
WeekendLife also interviewed a few gentlemen on their honest feeling about being cheated and if they find it hard to forgive their partners after cheating. Tinashe Mangiroza said, “From the beginning, men are designed with the potential to have and to reproduce with many spouses. Women on the other hand are more or less designed to focus on one man. Along with this natural design, women have stronger pain tolerance. Yes women feel pain when cheated on, but their tolerance is much higher than that of a man (in view of what I said above).”
“And men on the other hand have a low emotional pain tolerance, hence the higher suicide and murder rates among men. Then remember there’s also the ego element which men have. So when you combine a big ego, low pain tolerance and other things such as selfishness and competing with other men, it almost ends a man’s self-worth when a woman he loves decides to sleep with another man.”
He admits to have been cheated on before which he said it took away his self-esteem and he had to sleep around as a way of easing the pain whilst waiting to heal. Another gentleman who was also cheated at some point, Monwabisi Ndumiso Mgenge, highlighted that when a woman cheated on him it becomes very difficult for him to take her back because loyalty is everything to him.
“This is because most of the times relationship involves sex. You see the person naked you enjoy that, you don’t want anybody having what you have. You are emotionally invested and have imagined the future many times and this is why some get violent cause its trauma really.”
Psychologist at the Obafemi Awolowo University, Prof. Toba Elegbeleye said, “when it comes to marriage, men and women see things differently. He pointed out that a man tends to see the woman as possession, and so, the moment somebody else tries to cross the boundary and interferes with his property, there is bound to be serious problem.”
“So, it is not because women don’t care or they forgive so easily, but the circumstances don’t favour them as they favour men. If women were in a dominant position, they easily would have driven the man away. So, the moment a female has committed herself to marriage, for her to voluntarily and openly get out of it becomes a kind of stigma, and women cannot handle stigma, particularly where children are involved. Mothers would not want to walk away, unless it’s beyond their powers, thus they would rather endure.”
Thabiso Cavin Bogopa, an Empowerment Expert also shared with WeekendLife that men are wired different from women hence their response to cheating won’t be the same. “What may prove to be a difficulty in men forgiving cheating is that, generally speaking men sleep with who they can, women sleep with who they want, so the overarching thing becomes she cheated with her desire, the person she is actually attracted to and the cheated man struggles with that truth, as he realizes that sex for him is opportunity based, while for his counterpart is a deliberate and conscious choice.
This to a certain extent is what forms the challenge for men,” he explained. “Cheating devalues an individual both the cheater and cheated on, but more profoundly manifest in the cheated as they start to decrease in their self-esteem, losing their regard for themselves as they are undermined they may begin to try to address this trauma in multiple ways but more commonly through being exactly what they detest because they are stuck in the experience, they therefore cheat and become messed up.”
“No one gets away with cheating even if you never get caught, you become depleted as a person by the lies, trickery and illicit emotional trade. But if we may, the choice to forgive a cheating partner is a personal choice that goes both ways.”