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Kind Treatment of Wives

Iqbal Ebrahim
UNDERSTANDING ISLAM


In the Quran Allah instructs man to be good to their wives and to treat them well to the best of their ability: “…And live with them in kindness…” (Quran 4:19)


Further the Prophet Mohammed (pbuh) in his teachings said: ‘The Believers who show the most perfect Faith are, those who have the best character, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives’ And: ‘Treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers.’


In Islam the tone of a marriage is one of mutual respect, love, companionship kindness and harmonious interaction. And in her husband the wife has a friend and partner to share her life and concerns, to cherish and protect her and to help her bear her responsibilities. Equally for a man, in his wife he has a companion and helper who can give him peace, comfort and tranquillity in the rough and tumble of today’s life. The Quran says: “They (wives) are your garments and you (husbands) are their garments” (2 – 187)    

 
Human beings are imperfect so regrettably in this day and age we find many marriages in dire straits. This is because there is little or no peace between the couples. Many of our men tend to treat their wives in a shoddy manner this may simply be as a result of lack of communication and understanding amongst the couple. Too often we tend to treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to our own spouses.


In today’s world many women are subjected to physical abuse, which is the most serious form of abuse due to the fact because the visible bruises and scars bear testimony to the abuse that was inflicted upon them. But there is also another form of abuse which we can term as the ‘silent killer’ which are verbal and emotional abuse. Verbal and emotional abuse do not leave physical scars which are visible from the outside but women who suffer verbal and emotional abuse have deep scars which are etched within their hearts and minds and which, unlike the physical scars, cannot be erased. Many women live with the effects of these brutal abuses for life. No amount of counselling or therapy can make them overcome their years of pain and sorrow.


The Prophet of Mohammed (pbuh) tells us that a husband’s treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of the man’s faith.  How can a Muslim husband be good to his wife?  He should smile, not hurt her emotionally remove anything that will harm her, treat her gently, and be patient with her.

 

In case of conflict, a husband should be sensitive not to emotionally hurt her, under no circumstances, even when he is angry or somehow feels justified, is a husband allowed to humiliate her by use hurtful words or cause her any injury. Remember the words of the Quran: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may live in tranquillity with them, and He had put love and mercy between you; Verily, in that are signs for people who reflect."  (Quran 30:21)


Marriage is a partnership based on equal respect. We know that conflict in any marriage is inevitable and it can lead to misunderstanding and anger.  Anger can be one of the most difficult emotions to manage, so the first step toward controlling it can be learning how to forgive those who hurt us. Forgiving your partner is a wonderful trait as it helps build a strong marriage bond. We need to learn that our attitudes, actions, words and behaviour can unwittingly hurt our partners. We must remember that the kind treatment of our spouses leads to a happier home,


These little differences and arguments if left to fester can build up over time and endanger the marriage. In many homes verbal and emotional abuse, let alone violence, is taken lightly but the harm, which it causes, is phenomenal. Women are very often treated as sub-humans. They are demeaned, insulted and demoralized to such an extent that they soon become emotionally scarred and they are left with no choice other than to accept the abuse as being part of their lives. The simple equation for a better home environment is summed up as follows: 2get and 2give can create problems, so, just double it 4get and 4give solves many problems


O mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it its mate and from them both have spread abroad a multitude of men and women. Be careful of your duty toward Allah in Whom you claim (your rights) of one another, and towards the wombs (that bore you). Lo! Allah has been a Watcher over you." (4:1)


We should remember that a successful marriage relationship is built on a balance of equal partnership. If the man wishes that his wife ‘obey’ him and fulfil his needs, then likewise he must also fulfil her wants and needs. That is the basis for good treatment of wives.  
In reality, woman is the person who has in her hands the capacity, the instinct and the natural way of life to prepare, and to bring up the future leaders to mankind. She is the one who moulds the child to become the best or the worst leader in the world. As men we should be taking a keen interest in our children’s development and outlook in life because we are required to ensure that they receive the best in moral and religious guidance in addition to educational studies.


Amongst some His teachings Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: ‘It is the generous (in character) who is good to women, and it is the wicked who insults them.’ ‘This world is nothing but temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this world is a righteous woman’. ‘Women are the other halves of men.’"…and to your wife you have a duty and a responsibility." In the Qur'an Allah frequently addresses both the man and the woman. In one passage Allah reveals:


"For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women who are patient, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah's praise – For them all has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward." (33:35)



And again in the Qur'an:
"O mankind! Verily we have created you from a single (pair) of a male and female, and made you into nations and tribes that you may know each other not that you may despise each other." (49:13) That is the message of Islam about how women, especially our wives should be treated:


We have to build a home that has communication, compromise and consideration as the cornerstone of the marriage. We should inculcate those admirable traits such as being compassionate, generous, kind, devout, creative, honest, affectionate, energetic, gentle, optimistic, committed, faithful, confident, cheerful, forgiveness and so on for a marriage to be successful. There is a saying that carries a very simple but important and expressive message:  ‘Men may be the hearts, but women are the heartbeats. And we know that Hearts are useless without the heartbeats.’

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‘RO, ‘RO ‘RO YOUR ‘BOT

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If I say the word ‘robot’ to you,  I can guess what would immediately spring to mind –  a cute little Android or animal-like creature with human or pet animal characteristics and a ‘heart’, that is to say to say a battery, of gold, the sort we’ve all seen in various movies and  tv shows.  Think R2D2 or 3CPO in Star Wars, Wall-E in the movie of the same name,  Sonny in I Robot, loveable rogue Bender in Futurama,  Johnny 5 in Short Circuit…

Of course there are the evil ones too, the sort that want to rise up and eliminate us  inferior humans – Roy Batty in Blade Runner, Schwarzenegger’s T-800 in The Terminator,  Box in Logan’s Run,  Police robots in Elysium and  Otomo in Robocop.

And that’s to name but a few.  As a general rule of thumb, the closer the robot is to human form, the more dangerous it is and of course the ultimate threat in any Sci-Fi movie is that the robots will turn the tables and become the masters, not the mechanical slaves.  And whilst we are in reality a long way from robotic domination, there are an increasing number of examples of  robotics in the workplace.

ROBOT BLOODHOUNDS Sometimes by the time that one of us smells something the damage has already begun – the smell of burning rubber or even worse, the smell of deadly gas. Thank goodness for a robot capable of quickly detecting and analyzing a smell from our very own footprint.

A*Library Bot The A*Star (Singapore) developed library bot which when books are equipped with RFID location chips, can scan shelves quickly seeking out-of-place titles.  It manoeuvres with ease around corners, enhances the sorting and searching of books, and can self-navigate the library facility during non-open hours.

DRUG-COMPOUNDING ROBOT Automated medicine distribution system, connected to the hospital prescription system. It’s goal? To manipulate a large variety of objects (i.e.: drug vials, syringes, and IV bags) normally used in the manual process of drugs compounding to facilitate stronger standardisation, create higher levels of patient safety, and lower the risk of hospital staff exposed to toxic substances.

AUTOMOTIVE INDUSTRY ROBOTS Applications include screw-driving, assembling, painting, trimming/cutting, pouring hazardous substances, labelling, welding, handling, quality control applications as well as tasks that require extreme precision,

AGRICULTURAL ROBOTS Ecrobotix, a Swiss technology firm has a solar-controlled ‘bot that not only can identify weeds but thereafter can treat them. Naio Technologies based in southwestern France has developed a robot with the ability to weed, hoe, and assist during harvesting. Energid Technologies has developed a citrus picking system that retrieves one piece of fruit every 2-3 seconds and Spain-based Agrobot has taken the treachery out of strawberry picking. Meanwhile, Blue River Technology has developed the LettuceBot2 that attaches itself to a tractor to thin out lettuce fields as well as prevent herbicide-resistant weeds. And that’s only scratching the finely-tilled soil.

INDUSTRIAL FLOOR SCRUBBERS The Global Automatic Floor Scrubber Machine boasts a 1.6HP motor that offers 113″ water lift, 180 RPM and a coverage rate of 17,000 sq. ft. per hour

These examples all come from the aptly-named site www.willrobotstakemyjob.com    because while these functions are labour-saving and ripe for automation, the increasing use of artificial intelligence in the workplace will undoubtedly lead to increasing reliance on machines and a resulting swathe of human redundancies in a broad spectrum of industries and services.

This process has been greatly boosted by the global pandemic due to a combination of a workforce on furlough, whether by decree or by choice, and the obvious advantages of using virus-free machines – I don’t think computer viruses count!  For example, it was suggested recently that their use might have a beneficial effect in care homes for the elderly, solving short staffing issues and cheering up the old folks with the novelty of having their tea, coffee and medicines delivered by glorified model cars.  It’s a theory, at any rate.

Already, customers at the South-Korean  fast-food chain No Brand Burger can avoid any interaction with a human server during the pandemic.  The chain is using robots to take orders, prepare food and bring meals out to diners.  Customers order and pay via touchscreen, then their request is sent to the kitchen where a cooking machine heats up the buns and patties. When it’s ready, a robot ‘waiter’ brings out their takeout bag.   

‘This is the first time I’ve actually seen such robots, so they are really amazing and fun,’ Shin Hyun Soo, an office worker at No Brand in Seoul for the first time, told the AP. 

Human workers add toppings to the burgers and wrap them up in takeout bags before passing them over to yellow-and-black serving robots, which have been compared to Minions. 

Also in Korea, the Italian restaurant chain Mad for Garlic is using serving robots even for sit-down customers. Using 3D space mapping and other technology, the electronic ‘waiter,’ known as Aglio Kim, navigates between tables with up to five orders.  Mad for Garlic manager Lee Young-ho said kids especially like the robots, which can carry up to 66lbs in their trays.

These catering robots look nothing like their human counterparts – in fact they are nothing more than glorified food trolleys so using our thumb rule from the movies, mankind is safe from imminent takeover but clearly  Korean hospitality sector workers’ jobs are not.

And right there is the dichotomy – replacement by stealth.  Remote-controlled robotic waiters and waitresses don’t need to be paid, they don’t go on strike and they don’t spread disease so it’s a sure bet their army is already on the march.

But there may be more redundancies on the way as well.  Have you noticed how AI designers have an inability to use words of more than one syllable?  So ‘robot’ has become ‘bot’ and ‘android’ simply ‘droid?  Well, guys, if you continue to build machines ultimately smarter than yourselves you ‘rons  may find yourself surplus to requirements too – that’s ‘moron’ to us polysyllabic humans”!

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