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Marriage and Secrets

Opening a marital chapter can be beautiful and fulfilling, bringing not only two people together but two families and in the process building an unbreakable and everlasting bond. It can be both a source of joy, companionship and love.

It is expected that when getting married the marriage will have a fairy-tale happily ever after, building together, growing old together and eventually die at an old ripe age, but that’s not always the case…

A television show by a couple who have been married for 16 years, and have overcome the challenges faced by many in marriages, came up with a plan to help other married couples by offer counselling and advice to couples; addressing pivotal topics that are likely to make a marriage crumble. The show allows the public to partake in the show, asking with questions and make comments.“About 2 years ago, my husband and I both felt God leading us to embark on a new project aimed at trying to offer practical marriage advice to the country.

The idea was that we would allow people to ask us any question they wanted-unscripted. We thought this would be entertaining and also help people to see that this is real. It is not a polished TV production but rather our attempt to just share some of the things that have worked for us to help us enjoy our 16 years of marriage,” the co-host of the show Ashley Thaba told WeekendLife.

“We also felt question and answer would be more interesting to watch than us just sitting there talking. We also made sure that every week the audience was different so that each week there is a new energy in the room depending on who is present and what types of questions they are asking.”There is no doubt that most married couples fight, while some may know who they can turn to, some are most definitely stuck and most of the time do not know who to turn to, and help them work on their marriage, hence the show.

“The desire is that for those couples who feel they need a little help but maybe don't have the money for counselling or don't feel comfortable going to a third party for help. This allows them to sit in their sitting rooms and get free advice. Since the people are real people asking whatever comes to their mind, we are certain that people watching will be like "Oh yes! That is my question!"  she said.

Families are the foundation for every person and plays a major role in the lives and upbringing of each individual. “If the family unit is strong, then it enables one to be strong as well, and also be a healthier and a happier person. If we have more of those, it actually will help with education rates, job productivity, less gender based violence, less orphans and vulnerable children born as a result of extra martial affairs, etc. We believe investing into marriages means to invest into the heart of our nation's family unit and strengthen us at root level,” Ashley said.

One of the topics covered by the show is how one can prepare for marriage, which she says is a big deal since many people said they were never taught on how best they can prepare for marriage.“The other topic is ‘his needs and her needs’. Again that is pretty big because one of the things we talked about is how men need sex and women need conversation and domestic support meetings. A woman needs a man who is committed to the home and who wants to be a friend to her and a man needs to be sexually fulfilled. So a lot of times you find that one spouse is not getting their needs met so they won’t go out of their way to meet the other spouses needs and they end up both unfulfilled. We also teach them that they are different and that they need to understand each other,” she highlighted.

Other topics which are covered were on finances and dealing with in-laws who are finding it hard to accept their daughter-in-lawMrs Thaba highlighted that one of the reasons for the success of her marriage was based on transparency between her and her husband. Openness and willingness to talk things through.“We are open about everything! We are best friends!

I think a lot of people make the mistake of thinking they can hide parts of their life and it ends up preventing real intimacy and starting a lot of fights because eventually they find out and also it gets emotionally exhausting having to always tell lies and deceive others,” she advised.


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6th December 2023

Even though Botswana has over the years been performing extremely poorly at the Miss World competition, the country has confirmed that it will be hosting the beauty festival in 2026. Initially, the country was to host Miss World next year, something it failed to confirm before deadline. Director at Miss Botswana, Benjamin Raletsatsi, says Botswana will be ready then to host all participants. Miss Botswana Top 25 finalists left the boot camp yesterday. Quite shocking though, Miss Botswana team is still failing basics as responding to media inquiries on time yet it is dangerously hoping to host an event of high status

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DJ Sway ‘saved’ the YAMAs

22nd November 2023

DJ Sway, the daring and ambitious on-air presenter of Yarona FM, played a crucial role in saving the radio station’s music awards, known as the YAMAs. The event was initially dry and disorganized, but DJ Sway, who co-hosted with Pearl Thusi, injected life into the show. However, things took a turn for the worse when Pearl Thusi abruptly left the stage, leaving DJ Sway to carry on alone. Despite the unexpected setback, DJ Sway rose to the occasion and captivated the audience, effectively putting an end to the drama caused by Pearl Thusi.

In an exclusive interview after the YAMAs, DJ Sway revealed the behind-the-scenes chaos that unfolded during the event. He acknowledged the script editors, Phalana and Hope, who worked tirelessly to reedit the script and adapt it to a one-host format. Despite the last-minute changes, DJ Sway remained composed and focused, thanks to the support of his colleagues, such as Owen Rampha, Katlego Rakola, Tshepang Motsisi (DJ Easy), and LB.

When asked about his initial reaction to the unexpected turn of events, DJ Sway admitted to feeling saddened by how things ended. However, he credited Pearl Thusi for giving him a much-needed confidence boost during his moment of doubt. She reminded him that he was destined for greatness and that he didn’t need big stars to succeed. With her words of encouragement, DJ Sway regained his composure and approached the rest of the show with the same professionalism and charisma he displays on the radio.

To overcome the challenges he faced, DJ Sway relied on his radio skills and calm personality. He engaged with the audience as if he were speaking to a single person, pointing out individuals in the crowd to create a more intimate connection. He also expressed gratitude for his backstage team, who provided support and ensured the smooth running of the show.

DJ Sway expressed satisfaction in being seen as the saving grace of the YAMAs. He believed that he fulfilled his role as a host and brought joy to the Yarona FM board, his family, and his fans. Despite his success, DJ Sway’s journey has not been without hardships. He has experienced the loss of his mother and sister, which has left a lasting impact on him. While he continues to grieve, he seeks solace in therapy sessions and relies on his father for emotional support.

DJ Sway’s dedication to his craft and ability to overcome adversity make him a remarkable figure in the radio industry. His vibrant personality and deep knowledge of music have made him a perfect fit for Yarona FM. Despite the challenges he has faced, DJ Sway remains determined to make a positive impact and bring joy to his listeners. With his talent and resilience, there is no doubt that DJ Sway will continue to thrive in his career and leave a lasting legacy in the world of radio.


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Chef Gustos walk of shame

22nd November 2023

Chef Gustos, the renowned hitmaker, recently experienced what can only be described as a walk of shame at the 8th edition of the Yarona FM Music Awards (YAMAs). Despite being nominated a whopping seven times, he failed to secure a single win. Ouch!

The night was filled with surprises, drama, and controversy, but the biggest winner of the evening was Han C, who walked away with three awards, including Best Pop and Best Male Single for his hit song, “Sebinki.” Han C graciously announced that he would be donating P10,000 from his winnings to his fellow nominees, promoting a spirit of togetherness among artists. What a noble gesture!

Meanwhile, Chef Gustos found himself on the losing end of several categories, including People’s Choice Artist of the Year, which he had won in the past. He seemed unfazed by the loss, stating, “People know that ‘Away’ was big, but they won’t stop me.” It’s clear that Chef Gustos is determined to continue making music, regardless of the awards he receives.

However, he did express his frustration with the outcome, suggesting that the awards may be corrupt. He declined to comment further, citing the need to protect his brand and maintain good relationships with corporate clients. It’s understandable that he wants to avoid any potential damage to his future prospects.

In fact, Chef Gustos went so far as to request that Yarona FM not nominate him for future YAMAs. It seems he wants to distance himself from the disappointment and focus on his music without the pressure of awards. Perhaps this decision will allow him to create freely and without the burden of expectations.

While Chef Gustos may have experienced a walk of shame at the YAMAs, it’s important to remember that awards do not define an artist’s talent or success. His fans still appreciate his music, and he continues to have gigs with corporate clients. So, despite the disappointment, Chef Gustos remains optimistic about his future in the industry.

In the end, the YAMAs may have been a letdown for Chef Gustos, but he’s determined to keep moving forward. He won’t let a lack of awards dampen his spirits or hinder his creativity. And who knows, maybe next time he’ll come back stronger and prove that he’s deserving of recognition. After all, the true measure of an artist’s success lies in the hearts of their fans, not in shiny trophies.


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