Single ladies fix their crowns!
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It’s no secret that love is in the air around Valentine’s Day. Between the heart-shaped decorations, sentimental gifts that pop up everywhere, it can feel like an occasion that’s only meant for couples. But you don’t have to be in a relationship to enjoy that day.
In fact, experiencing it solo or with a group of your naughty girls may even be more of a reason to celebrate. Some single ladies cosy up on the couch with their favourite romance movies and let their Hollywood crush be their Valentine.
Some make sure there is no shortage of delicious cake and cookies for them to whip up for friends, families and of course for themselves, so they keep themselves busy with bake treats. Yes it’s all great and fun to sweat a little; some single ladies give themselves the Valentine’s gift of endorphins by spending some time exercising. Well, that is a story for another day, but these particular Gaborone single ladies had maximum fun on Valentine’s Day this past Friday.
The event was called ‘Naughty version of Women’s Conference’. And indeed, those ladies went crazy like that! It was implausible, hysterical and I loved the concept because it was actually new, not only in Gaborone but the entire country as well. You know, our entertainment industry has been revolving around one and the same thing, something which ends up being droning. At times, we need a diverse line of attack to showbiz, bring in to some degree something that will leave folks turning heads, or nattering about it everywhere.
But, I was also fascinated by the fact that the naughty girls incorporated some sort of empowerment in it. I know you probably asking yourself how a wayward person can vest someone, but the ladies invited professionals from different fields to share insights on how ladies can fix their crowns. Organised by Tina Gotlop and Aretha Manama, the naught girls affair was a first of its kind, and featured performances from female DJs and the guest speakers included the founder of Motswana Woman Moral Education specialist, Rachel Matshaba, Ariel
Image Consultancy founder Kate Leboile as well as founder of Nalie Brands Nalie Kolobe.Upon arrival at the venue, Campus Exclusive at Molapo Crossing Mall, we were treated to a VIP lounge, assigned a young man to be our waiter for the night. He served cold beverages and the entire event; he was up, left, right and centre doing what he is getting paid for. It wasn’t so long and the place was filled up with some of Gaborone’s mischievous girls…single ladies so they say.
DJ Iman was there behind her decks doing some little magic with slow jams as ladies and few gents find their way into the venue. It was literally my first time to attend an event of such a calibre and nature, so my eyes were all over. I could see girls moving around on heels, and I mean inches! And oh, the theme of the event was ‘sexy and lace’Oh wow, what would you wear for a thing like that? Girls came prepared with their laces, faces polished way much better than beauty queens! I spotted few of those naughty girls on lingerie’s, and as I was still looking in shock, they stroked postures I have never seen before, not even on model photo-shoots.
The thing is, I never knew someone can be just so free and bold about wearing lingerie in public, but at least they had blouses just so they don’t expose their private assets. I wanted to see how all of this will unfold, so I stayed for a while.It was fun, the DJ Iman knew what stuff to play for single ladies and beverages came rolling like that, and exhausting the bill was never on the agenda anyway. But before I got carried away, and before the party levelled up, I had a chat with the organisers, to comprehend what really this naughty version of women’s conference is all about. ‘’We are a group of young women with a sole mandate to empower other young women. It’s every day that women get to experience so form of violence, shame or rejection and some do not know where to ask for help.
As much as that is heart breaking, we saw it fit to bring girls and ladies together under one roof, call experts, have informal fun interactions and see how best we can fix each other’s crowns and equip them with knowledge and power to take charge of their lives, as well as building some sort of sisterhood.’’ Tina Gotlop said in an interview with Weekend Life.The organisers joint forces with young enthusiastic female powerhouses, some which are DJs, image consultants, sexologists, motivational speakers, cyber-bullying survivors, gender-based violence activists, models as well as women in the entertainment industry. It was a whole girl’s squad. They say girls run the world, and indeed, they do!
‘’We also believe that real queens fix each other’s crown and it’s something worth reminding yourself on a regular basis. We live in a very competitive world but the simple truth is, women are more powerful when they work together. So instead of rivalry, we should be embracing collaboration, instead of trying to prove our power by standing alone, we should work as a team.’’Gotlop stressed that women’s networking groups are vital because they are safe places where they can discuss topical issues, challenges, ideas, even fears with other women in similar positions. ‘’It’s also a place of learning. New business women can learn so much from other, high profile women.
So this was not only to wine and dine, but a collaborative approach that helps create confidence, support, validations, empowerment, even accountability.‘’It’s easy to doubt ourselves sometimes, or equally, to set impossibly high standards. Talking to other women who are experiencing those same feelings can really help. When others believe in you, it’s much easier to believe in yourself. Networking isn’t just a way of finding useful contacts. These groups are a source of inspiration, motivation ideas and solutions. They are there to foster relationships that are mutually beneficial. And the more energy you put in, the more you get out. Let’s face it; men have been doing it for years’’, she highlighted
There was also appearances by June Seisa of Lakenet as well as Miss Tourism International Botswana 2019 Abigai Jansen. I must applaud these girls for coming up with a different approach to Valentine. They did not only create a conducive space for single ladies on Valentine, they shared crucial insights on how best ladies can grow themselves. It’s really impressive…and hopes other girls who did not attend start fixing their crowns too!
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The Science of Happiness
There is an intimate relationship between material wealth and poverty of spirit, posits Jeff Golden, whose award-winning book, Reclaiming the Sacred: Healing Our Relationships with Ourselves and the World, begins with scientific revelations regarding the things that nourish the human spirit and the things that don’t, most notably money and possessions.
“As we’ve surrounded ourselves with more and more possessions, we’ve grown further from the sacredness of the world, and the sacredness of ourselves,” Golden writes. “As we’ve elevated economic growth and consumption to the highest measures of success and purpose, we’ve closed ourselves off from so much of the joy and wonder that are inherent in us and the world.”
The result of 12 years of research, Reclaiming the Sacred draws upon the work of thousands of psychologists and economists, cosmologists and activists, saints and poets, to ground readers in their inherent joy, purpose and belonging — both for their own sakes and for the sake of the world.
Golden explores the profound consequences of materialism, including how it impacts the global climate crisis. Then he goes beyond all of that, diving into the very heart of humanity’s existence, by charting a path — both scientific and mystical — for reclaiming the inherent joy and richness of life.
Money accounts for just 2-4% of our happiness, according to former Vassar College instructor and activist Jeff Golden. What about the remaining 96-98%? Jeff’s thoroughly researched insights provide the answers, and he shares them in his new book, Reclaiming the Sacred, which received the 2023 Nautilus Book Awards Grand Prize, putting him in the company of the Dalai Lama, Barbara Kingsolver, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra and other luminaries.
Reclaiming the Sacred explores profound questions, including:
- How important is money to happiness?
- What is the optimal amount of money and possessions for a person to be happy?
- Does having kids make people happy? Getting married? Having sex? Working?
- What are some of the most serious effects of global warming?
- What kinds of changes will people have to make as individuals and as a society as a result of global warming? How will those changes allow people to actually live better lives?
- What does the economic system get wrong when it comes to what really matters, and how should progress be measured?
Ultimately, Reclaiming the Sacred takes readers on a journey that follows the golden threads of happiness, abundance and belonging — and leads them home.
“We have an opportunity to reweave ourselves back into the human community and the family of all living beings, the family of the land and trees, the otters and grasses — to live with them in relationships of respect and wonder,” Golden adds. “We have an opportunity to reclaim ourselves and this world as sacred.”
About the Author
Jeff Golden has been teaching and writing about the topics he covers in his book for over 30 years, most recently at Vassar College. He was a Fulbright Scholar in sustainable development and a recipient of the State Department’s Millennium International Volunteer Award. He is a prison reform and animal rights activist, and has headed several nonprofits promoting social justice, sustainability and international education. A native of Idaho, he resides in the Mohicanituk Valley in New York, with his children, the river and the stars.
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Spring and outdoor sex!
The best sex of sexually active persons begins in Spring. Well, this season is time to pack up puffer coats and throw on some lacy lingerie, just so the bedroom is lightened up and the sex gets spicier. For singles, and just in case the libido has been hibernating all winter, it has now become crucial to bring in some heat.
Sexologists and therapists say better sex means different things to different people and it can mean changing many things over time, but one thing’s for sure, to improve sex life in any way, one got to be ready for change.
Certified Sex Therapist Kendra Capalbo suggests that lovers should make most of the weather. “Studies have shown the positive correlation between sunlight and mood, and now that there is more of it, harness the impact it can have on the mood of your relationship. One study from Tel Aviv University showed that increased exposure to sunlight can enhance romantic passion.”
Moving around outside won’t only improve your mood and possible mental approach to sex though, Clinical Sexologist Megwyn White says. “It has physical benefits too. It increases libido by releasing endorphins and improving self-confidence, and it brings more blood flow to the genitals.”
Removing negativity can also work this Spring. Think of the warm weather as a time in which to reset your mindset as well, especially when it comes to your time in the bedroom (or in this case the camping tent.)
“No more negative self-talk or other people’s opinions holding you back. If there is that one fantasy that you and your partner keep agreeing, then make it your mission to finally check it off your bucket list. Spring is all about adventure, so it is time to embrace it.”
Therapists also say that something about Spring makes people want to strip down. Plus, the mild forecast does wonders for your skin and hair, and you can see your legs again. The season allows sex enthusiasts to engage with windows open. Think of it as exhibitionism without the threat of jail time.
Its just as sensual as summer, without the sweat. Those summer months get all the sexual glory, but it’s hard to feel hot when you’re actually, legitimately so hot! When the bedroom turns into a sauna mid-hookup, it’s a little hard to get in the mood.
Experts say there are a number of factors that make Spring sensual. “The weather is the catalyst. Ever since the spring equinox, the days have been getting longer. More exposure to sunlight increases our production of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that boots mood. And happy people tend to be horny people,” said Danielle Forshee, a psychologist, family, marriage and individual therapist.
Having started her business in 2016, Forshee specializes in the evaluation and treatment of high-conflict family problems, high-risk behaviors, and psychological disorders within and outside of the family court system.
She also said that the pleasant weather also urges sex lovers outdoors, where they’re likely to socialize and meet potential new partners. “It encourages us to shed some of the bulky layers we’ve been wearing all winter too. People are coming out of hibernation, and they’re swapping out their sweats and comfy clothes for more, shall we say, ‘scantily clad’ options.”
“They are exposing more body parts. As humans we notice those things, and it makes us more apt to go into mating mode.”
Whether you are looking for a casual hookup or you just want to get more loving from your partner, Spring will boost your desire. According to a study published in the US National Library of Medicine, animal mating habits are directly correlated to the changing of the seasons.
“We’re attuned to our biological clocks. Our bodies know that offspring survival rates soar when the weather is warmer; food is plentiful, climate is temperate and no one will freeze to death. Therefore, when Spring hits and warm weather abounds, our biological mating siren is ticked off.”
Now, while there is conflicting discourse on whether Spring fever is an actual illness, most scientists agree that there are documented psychological changes associated with the change in season.
“Spring fever is not a definitive diagnostic category. But I would say it begins as a rapid and yet unpredictable fluctuating mood and energy state that contrasts with the relative low winter months that precede it,” said Michael Terman, Director of the Center for Light Treatment and Biological Rhythms at Columbia University Medical Center.
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Glotto to showcase at New York Fashion Week
The country’s Afrocentric and most popular youth fashion brand, Glotto, continues to dominate the fashion industry and shape fashion trends. It is reaching heights and staying relevant in a fast-paced and ever-changing landscape. Without doubt, the youthful fashion brand has revolutionized the fashion and lifestyle industry in Botswana.
Not only that, its iconic logo and tagline have become synonymous with style and sophistication, and Glotto’s influence extends far beyond the world of fashion. Haute couture, elegant designs and ready to wear is what Glotto has to offer.
New York Fashion Week (NYFW), a semi-annual series of events in Manhattan typically spanning seven to nine days when international fashion collections are shown to buyers, the press and fashion enthusiasts is coming up, and Glotto has been invited to showcase at the same top fashion event.
This is one of four major fashion weeks in the world, collectively known as the “Big Four”, along with those in Paris, London and Milan. This year’s NYFW schedule includes a range of runway shows and presentations for both men’s and women’s clothing lines.
Designers such as Marc Jacobs, Ralph Lauren, The Blonds, Proenza Schouler and Carolina Herrera will be showcasing their upcoming collections in a variety of different formats ranging from traditional runway shows to virtual showrooms and digital activations.
NYFW organizers say every great designer began as an “unknown”, so in addition to some of fashion’s most storied names, their schedule includes independent and emerging designers, many making their appearance on the runway for the first time.
“This is where NYFW becomes a true journey of discovery, the perfect opportunity to discover emerging designers who are pushing the boundaries of fashion and style. Some are new, and others are successful designers in their home country making an appearance at NYFW for the first time.”
Talking about making an appearance at the NYFW, WeekendLife had a conversation with the creative behind Glotto, Mboko Basiami this week, who unpacked how she was invited to showcase in New York and how things are unfolding.
When speaking to this publication, Basiami said a series of invitations were sent via email and social media, inviting her to be a part of the fashion week, something that she wouldn’t trade for anything.
She expanded a bit on collections that she will be showcasing, saying “It’s a seven-look collection and this is our first time participating in the NYFW. Glotto was founded seven years ago and everything is going to come altogether and of course, our attention to detail and texture and a lot of storytelling is what fashion lovers should expect.”
Quizzed if this is a self-sponsored trip to New York, Basiami stressed that in the business of fashion, one can’t expect to have talented runway models, hair, makeup and two assistants sponsored, therefore the trip will be taking money from her pockets. “It is heavily subsidized but there is still a 7000 US Dollar bill to it.”
Networking, global reach and exposure is what is motivating Glotto to go and shine in Manhattan. This is predominantly because New York Fashion Week has been there for so many years, having established itself as the most reputable fashion week in the whole world.
There is the media, right buyers, great location, investors and scholarships. “It will also allow me to compare the quality of my garments with that of designers all over the world. This adds on our unique product offering and what makes Glotto competitive, something that we have been striving for even though we are a local brand.
In preparing for this phenomenal opportunity, a lot needs to be done and thus far, everything is on track. According to Basiami, “I’m trying to balance not worrying about the business and accounts side of things, but rather about the looks and integrity of garments and fashion sustainability. We have reached out corporates who are willing to support us on the journey, the moral support is beautiful and heartwarming.
Meanwhile, Glotto recently showcased at the US-Africa Business Summit in Gaborone. The fashion brand hosted President Mokgweetsi Masisi, who was introduced to ready to wear collections and Glotto live mannequins.