There are so many factors that lead to cheating in most relationships, and whilst most of the time women are victims of cheating, the need to be faithful when in a relationship can never be over-emphasized.
To set up a long lasting relationship, there is a need to give your partner a reason not to doubt your faithfulness. When a partner cheats, often people are left heartbroken, hence the famous television show, “Wena wa Njolela,’ which will be hitting local screens to in search of cheaters as well as exposing them.
Botswana’s version of ‘Cheaters’ has only one mandate for the country; to reduce the rate of cheating amongst couples, which they believe the show will play a significant role in ensuring that hearts are preserved.The reality show will start recording its first episode on the 27th of March 2020 and will be running as long as there are people seeking intervention through the show. Each episode is set to run for only 30 minutes.
The most sought after show will air on Bonang TV, with other broadcasters said to come on board as time goes on. Producers of the show are still at the negotiation table with international broadcasters to expand viewership.In an Interview with WeekendLife, the Director of the show, who-for the time being wishes to remain anonymous, said, “We noticed that Botswana is behind with reality shows, and we thought of introducing something of its own kind and unfamiliar with anyone. In as much as condoms are given out to prevent HIV, we believe the show will reduce cheating,” he said.
The show is more than ready to receive requests from partners who suspect their significant other is unfaithful. “For now, if anyone needs our services they can go on Facebook and search our page, ‘Wena wa Njolela’ and leave us a message there, and we will get back to them as soon as possible, we are still setting up our offices in Gaborone,” he said.When asked whether third parties’ identities will be disclosed during the show, he revealed that all persons involved in the investigation will be exposed. “We will not blur any images on the show, unless where we confront people and we find them in the house and not dressed, then we will blur the images to avoid nudity on our screens,” he added.
Infidelity can be one of the most painful and underrated emotional abuse in society, it can emotionally, mentally and or otherwise destroy someone, so much so that they do not only have trust issues but it may also play a part in how they see themselves (self -conscious). Scorned lovers, those as a result of infidelity, will relate to the many mental breakdowns they had and their inability to accept their reality, something which can lead to adverse repercussions. The show however, has considered such circumstances and they are ready for anything.“After the show we will have counselling offered to participants and not only after but before, whoever calls us, we will bring our counsellors to talk to them to ensure they are psychologically ready for any outcome,” he highlighted.
The show is ready for anything that may come as an obstacle, this includes possible lawsuits. “We are aware that there could be lawsuits against us but we are prepared for such should they surface,” he said.In case things get a little out of hand, there will be four (4) bodyguards with the crew to intervene.Mostly known for its controversy and radically taking firm measures to expose infidelity, the show is coming through with an age restriction. It will only open participation to people above 18 and participants will be required to disclose their national identity cards.
Organisers are very much aware of fraudsters who are likely to use the show to get back at their ex-lovers, and they will ensure that they are not victim of such instances. “Before the investigations can commence, we will run a background check on the relationship to ensure such does not happen and should we find that you are trying to get back at anyone there are consequences,’’ he said.WeekendLife took it to the people on their experience with cheating and their perspectives on it. When talking to a certain gentleman who preferred to be anonymous about his experience with cheating, he said when he noticed that he was being cheated on, he was left heartbroken and had to call it quits.“I was left stressed and disappointed as I thought she loved me the same way and had dreams and goals with me.
I thought we had opened a chapter that will lead to something, little did I know that I was being played. I was really disappointed’’, he said.He said that even after he had moved on, there was a part of him that was a bit sceptical about whether he will meet a loyal partner or not. “When you are cheated on at some point, it does obviously affect your next relation because you would ponder on the past wounds that they might come again but then again you get to realise that people are different which can allow you to be positive, that one day you will meet the one you can trust with your heart,” he said.Women tend to be more sensitive than men and they are often deeply ripped apart when they find out that they have been cheated on. Even though some are always forgiving, others are of the notion that there is no excuse for cheating.
Speaking to a 29 year old lady who also opted for anonymity, she narrated her story of how she found out her partner was cheating.“We were planning to go out for a brunch, he had some restaurant recommendations to show me on his phone but each time I looked at it, he would get anxious and made sure he looked me right in the eye to monitor if I was looking at exactly what he wanted me to look at. That is when I picked that he definitely had something to hide. So I went to his Instagram and looked at his messages and that is when I found nudes and noticed he was seeing and dating multiple women,” she said.
Although she was pained and bruised, she said she felt really stupid. “I was crushed yes, but I felt more stupid. But I took time to reflect and noticed that those were his actions not mine. So if anyone was stupid then it was him,” she said.Currently she is not eager to be in any relationship. “I had trust issues, but not in a general sense. I lost all respect and trust for him. Of course next time I decide to get in a relationship, I’ll be extra careful. Right now I have nothing against him,” she said.
A young man who had cheated on his partner at some point, who opted to be anonymous as well, shared with WeekendLife that although he knows that cheating can hurt someone, they are very much aware it is wrong, hence he feels doing it secretly won’t cause much harm because they are not guaranteed whether their partners are not cheating as well.
Psychological view on the show Psychologist Keletso Tshekiso, told WeekendLife that the Cultivation Theory suggests that the more time people spend watching television, the more their conceptions of reality will reflect what they see on television. In other words, what one constantly views and learns on television is likely to become a part of their reality eventually.“In this case, I can assume that this particular program is likely to alter how society perceives issues related to promiscuity, infidelity and influence their attitudes and beliefs. It is still early to predict the "how part" although a hypothesis can be made,” she said.
She concluded that it is important for viewers to wisely decide on what TV content to watch and what not to view. “On the other side, television production companies as commercial institutions also have a greater responsibility to protect their viewers from any graphic, obscene or potentially harmful content. I think we must find common ground,” she said.
Women love style, looking dolled up, looking graceful and elegant but it begs the question; is your personal image representing the true you?
It is important to wear the right outfit, colours, styles and attitude to achieve your best look and to be taken serious. In addition, it is essential to wear the right mind-set about your self-image because the way you see yourself will have a mirror effect on how others see you.
Mosadi is an image consultancy geared towards uplifting women socially by means of image consulting. It empowers women to look great, feel their best and increase self-confidence.
Image consulting is a professional field that aims to improve the image of a client personally or professionally through appearance, behaviour, and communication.
With proper grooming, wardrobe, accessories and body language, Mosadi will project your best image and unique personal style to create greater opportunities and improved relationships.
It will also assist you communicate your personal or professional goals successfully to project greater confidence in all situations. In an exclusive interview with WeekendLife, Lemogang Sesupo, co-owner of Mosadi (currently employed as a teacher) said this is a business she started with her blood sister Boemo Sesupo (a records officer).
“I can confidently reveal that running this business has its ups and downs, but what better way to have those struggles than with family. She is more into the clothing line and I am more into the consultancy but together we make it work. The two departments give into each other which makes it easy for us to make it work,’’ said Sesupo.
She says passion, purpose and hobby is what makes the business flow with ease.“Looking good, feeling good and doing good makes the dream work. Mosadi wants to change the idea people have about women in the corporate world.
We are trying to break boundaries from people saying women sleep their way to the top or being trophy wives. This concept is all about redefining the woman.”
The duo believe that Mosadi can do it all by herself from her sweat and hard work without being dependent on men. This, they say, could be made possible if they look good and dwell much on improving their appearance.
“Many people perceive local employees as poor service providers by the way they look, so we believe it’s time that stops today. A woman should look womanly and be comfortable in her look. Looking decent has that effect where the way you walk with your head held high and the productivity level goes up,” says Sesupo.
Sesupo told WeekendLife that they provide make-over services, image consultancy, styling, and corporate clothing and MC services. Technically, Mosadi came at an appropriate time when the world is battling the COVID-19 pandemic, something that gave birth to the shattering Gender-Based Violence.
In Botswana, the numbers are taking a growing curve.It is only vital these women have their voices heard in fighting this crisis. This will not only help government, but will look good for their image especially now that they work with women at most times. Women do look pretty and elegant, but they carry much snags and worries, and only a shoulder to cry on can do marvels.
“Character is key. Mosadi wants to build character for women. A woman with character will know her worth, tap into her intuition and differentiate between what is right and wrong. With GBV, Mosadi is trying to let women to know their worth. We strive to educate them to make decisions for themselves and to be independent.”
The COVID-19 pandemic has altered the way the world moves, actually, it has it at a standstill.
The impacts of this deadly virus are massive, and the only way to curb it from spreading is through social distancing and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
The pandemic had gym rooms closed to avoid crowding by fitness enthusiasts. However, some have come up with alternative ways of keeping fitness rolling even in the midst of this plague.
Prominent fitness trainer and certified sports psychologist, Chyna Mokaila couldn’t be at a standstill from working out with clients, even in the middle of a deadly virus. He has since started an online training program dubbed CMFit Virtual fitness.
The program begun during the first lockdown implemented in March 2020, but because there was no revenue coming in, the young lad had to go back to the drawing board and come up with something tangible to earn him monies.
He told Weekendlife in an exclusive interview this week that; “I had to make a sustainable solid plan that would see me doing what I do best and continue my work with or without lockdown and COVID-19. This made me tap into other markets and countries throughout the world. Currently, I have clients as far as the US, Canada, Austria, Italy, and neighbouring South Africa and Zambia.”
Chyna says the online fitness training has proven to be less risky in exposing oneself to the virus, as they get to training at the comfort of their homes with less contact.
“COVID-19 has brought a lot of sadness, depression and unhealthy habits because of being restricted to lockdowns. It goes without saying that staying fit helps individuals with depression and offers a feel good atmosphere.
Health should be our number one priority at this current moment, and the only way it can be done is virtually. People have learnt to embrace technology so we might as well divert our services to such platforms.”
Virtual fitness is cost effective, according to Chyna. “Although you get the same feel and package which comprises of consultation, nutritional guidelines, assessments and the actual training program the only difference is that the trainer is not there physically with you but virtually.”
Nutrition plays a very critical role in blocking viruses that could alter how the body system works. The right amounts of nutrients reduce risks of non-communicable diseases, increases energy levels to perform better and fight infections. Scientists say COVID-19 critically affects those with underlying health conditions.
Chyna told Weekendlife that he envisions reaching out to the world market, indicating that he will be having his training programs online as he has seen an opportunity in the digital space.
“This will start with repackaging my brand so that it is at par with the best in the world, hence why I have moved from Chyna’s kata-Bo to CMFit which provides more detailed programs anyone can do on their own- following my virtual programs.”
In his rigorous efforts to help people realize the significance of an active and healthy lifestyle, Chyna has collaborated with the BTV Morning Fitness Show and Yarona FM’s Fatboy Challenge which saw him landing another health segment with the radio station.
The fitness enthusiast has also worked with the senior men’s and women’s national football team, as well as the karate team as the conditioning coach. Internationally, Chyna has collaborated with Essence Events from the United States.
His core duty was to travel Africa promoting active lifestyle and health.Chyna is currently a conditioning coach for Township Rollers, an engagement that sees him guide and work with the team, keeping them at pick in terms of their fitness levels.
This enables them to cope with the demands of the game without fail throughout the season.
The country’s biggest beauty pageant, Miss Botswana, has eroded over the years. Beside the fact that crowned Queens dismally fail at Miss World year-in-year-out, the pageantry itself has been losing its shine in terms of organization, implementation and just throwing a glamourous event like it used to do before producing little to no tangible results.
Of course it started in 2018 when Miss Botswana was just disorganized and boring. The event was held at Masa Square Hotel, when only three participants battled it out for the blue crown.
Moitshepi Elias was crowned the princess that Friday night. That was technically the last time we saw her smile because, even if she did at Miss World, her smile wasn’t convincing enough.
The judges felt she was not good enough, as she was not even close to Top 40. In the history of the pageant, Miss Botswana 2010; Emma Wareus and Miss Botswana 1997; Mpule Kwelagobe are the only queens to be remembered as those who made a great impact as they reached top positions at Miss World and Miss Universe. Wareus was crowned the first runner up, while Kwelagobe snatched the title to become Miss Universe 1999.
Miss Botswana 2020 could not be held due to the COVID-19 pandemic, something that left beauty pageant analysts stunned. Some feel this is a huge setback for the organizers, Development Advance Institute (DAI). This organization took over in 2018 and came with a plan for Miss Botswana, in which they strive to give the pageant a facelift.
Prominent beauty pageant analyst, Morekolodi Smith, told Weekendlife that a gap year delayed the implementation of the plan. “DAI aimed at revamping the organization, bidding to host Miss World and it will be tough to reach those aspirations due to this year gap. It still has to work on the reputation of Miss Botswana which has been deteriorating for years.
DAI promised a new era for Miss Botswana, I had expectations that they will crown a well-rounded girl who can bring glory to this country. With everything on hold and zero communication on what to expect, I see failure. The silence and inactivity is almost eerie. I wouldn’t be surprised if DAI drops Miss Botswana and another organization takes over.”
Smith says part of Miss Botswana could be held virtually, to avoid the stillness and dropping in rankings. “Auditions, short-listings and preliminary interviews could be held virtually but not the actual final show. There is no need for the final show to be held virtually because traditionally Miss Botswana is never contested by more than 50 girls. The number is always narrowed to 12 and 16.”
He explained that the selection committee could go through all applications and select the Top 15, adding that the 15 would then be profiled in-depth followed by official photoshoots and glam shots. “They could then take part in multimedia campaigns and host webinars.
Pre-recording the swimsuit and evening gown preliminary competition as well as featuring contestant video profiling could add magic. This is the time to maximize on video content.”Smith says there could be talent segment where contestants showcase their talent to entertain, and it could be recorded and each contestant’s video can be uploaded on social media for online audience and the public gets to vote for their favourite, and the winner gets to perform during the final show.
“Then the final show can be streamed live on social media platforms. Miss Botswana could have all Top 15 contestants do an opening number, followed by self-introductions then their short video profiles played. It can feature live onstage swimsuit and evening gown competition.”
After the swimsuit and evening gown competition, Smith said the question and answer session could be held, leading to crowing of the next Miss Botswana. He however, said Miss Botswana’s performance is fuelled by many challenges that persisted for quite a stretch now.
“One major challenge is that the Miss Botswana pageant is held very late. Our queens have limited time to prepare. This leads to half cooked Beauty with a Purpose project. No one excels at Miss World without an impactful Beauty with a Purpose project.”
He suggested that Miss Botswana could be held at least eight months before Miss World festival so that the winner can work on her project, a project that needs to be documented and packaged well. “I realized that queens here don’t have physical input on their projects. They always look glamorous and do not actually do the work. They are always on VIP mode and only come to cut the ribbon.
It is time that stops today. Tiara should be put aside and sleeves should be rolled. Preparation and packaging is key.”“It is essential to have Miss Botswana every year so that she can reach out to communities and add value to those in need.
Being Miss Botswana is more like an ambassador, the winner gets to represent Botswana internationally, precisely at Miss World. I think Botswana requires that global positioning space, as this works well with country branding because Miss World is a premium event.”