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Saidi Mdala’s The Loser’s Seminar

Author: Saidi Mdala

Reviewed by DAVID BAAITSE  
 

The Loser’s Seminar is a unique book, the only one of its kind in the world. Written by a celebrated loser from the past, the book can help change the lives of many people. It warns against useless personalities that make it impossible for many to realise dreams and or achieve success in the pursuit of life.


Many books have been written by renowned best authors as well as most successful and prominent figures such as The Way To Success, Think Like A Champion and How to Get Rich by Donald Trump in a bid to push people to the corridors of success. Trump's insight and business principles offer valuable lessons and great motivation to his books.


These people try very hard to be personal mentors and coaches as they share tips, tactics, and strategies, all designed to help one make the most of themselves, their career, and their life. They cover basic rules or beliefs, and show how to make it work as well as learning the vital qualities and skills that every successful businessperson needs.


The Loser’s Seminar is one such book that resolved to address the most common traits of a loser – it is purely from the author’s personal perspective and experience. This book unlike other motivational books does not endeavour to take a comprehensive approach to money making, life and personal developments because one dimensional success is not really success after all.  This is one book that one will find interest in curving at least a few pages every day to push out of the losers’ streak to become achievers.


The author, Saidi Mdala said he wrote this book to highlight the stupid decisions he made and some idiotic habits he developed during the 40 years of his life. “If you can avoid half of these blunders you can be wildly successful,” he says. He narrates how he threw opportunities away and made bizarre decisions that cost him dearly and still did nothing about it until he woke up at the age of 40.


This What- Not- To- Do self help book is for a change and it emphasises what you should avoid as you navigate the ever tricky and often precarious terrain of life. If you relate to the author’s mistakes you can challenge the way you have done things up to now and change accordingly.


In the same book the author hints that being stupid can become a habit. He says back at college he was once offered a lucrative job opportunity at a reputable mine outside the country and turned it down preferring to finish the academic year instead.

From this decision alone, Mdala was on his way to becoming a serial loser. He later discovered that he could have transferred his credits to an institution in another country and finished his studies there. This was a lost opportunity. He gives examples of people who did the right thing when confronted with situations that demand making a choice between studies and a career.


Henry Ford had no formal education worth writing home about but he used his opportunity when it came to change the course of history by inventing the self propelled modern automobile, the Ford T- Model.


Abraham Lincoln, the man who became one of the most illustrious United States Presidents and abolished slavery, only attended formal school for 12 months. Still he became a lawyer at 32 because he knew exactly what he wanted to get out of life; with or without school.


“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its inability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid”. Saidi said losers are ill – disciplined. Indiscipline is an active form of laziness which generates action without results – in short, activity, while discipline creates action with results, i.e. productivity.


The reason why Mdala wrote a book on his personal experience is to ensure that this does not happen to others. He says many will however argue that they cannot learn from stories of failures but his argument to encounter that is; if you know what does not work you can always avoid it, or at least recognise it earlier enough to confront it with a far better chance of overcoming it.


“I have always wondered what it takes to earn the kind of money that Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith, Usain Bolt, Floyd Mayweather Jr and Jay Z rack in every year, and I discovered one common trait that gave life to all their successful pursuits. They work hard. All high net people work harder that you can imagine. Artists and sports people spend longer than 18 hours in the studio and and many hours in the gym pumping tones of weights and making hundreds of choreographed dance moves.”  


Do you struggle to finish anything you started? Do you take crap while sitting? Are you just plain lazy? Do you lack guts? Would you rather play it safe than take a risk? If you even remotely relate with any of these, this book was written for you.

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Overcoming the trauma of rape

29th September 2020
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According to World Population Review, women aged 16-19 are four times more likely to be victims of rape or sexual assault and female college students ages 18-24 are three times more likely to experience sexual assault. Transgender people and those with disabilities are twice as likely to be victims of sexual assault or rape.

From these very statistics Botswana can be found second only to neighbouring South Africa with the highest rape cases in the world. The number of incidents per 100,000 citizens do not take into account the number of cases that have not been reported to authorities. This goes without saying that Botswana may very well be on the same level as South Africa if not surpassing it.

Most of these victims have a hard time dealing with the violence they faced to an extent where it affects their day to day life.

WeekendLife interviewed rape survivor, Patience Ruwona, who was raped at the age of 15. Ruwona shared her gruesome experience and what it took for her to find healing, gather strength and move forward.

“It happened eight years ago and at the time I was only 15 years old. My mother was staying with her boyfriend at the time. So it happened that one day I came early from school. I was still doing form 2. I was the first one to come back from school. The boyfriend was home. So when I was changing into home clothes in my room, the boyfriend came in without even knocking. He then told me my mother has left some money so that whoever comes back first from school can go and buy meat,” Ruwona narrated.

“I then told him I will come get the money when I am done. He went back to his room. So after I finished changing, I went to their room. I knocked and he told me to come in. When I got, I found him half naked with only a towel. That made me feel very uncomfortable because when we were growing, we were taught never to enter an elder’s room when they are not fully dressed. I told him I came to collect the money and he pointed the dressing table.”

Unbeknownst to the young unsuspecting Ruwona, her mother’s then boyfriend would then grab the young lad, rip apart her garments and have his way with her. When Ruwona threatened to expose him, the audacious perpetrator would laugh in her face, telling her that there would be nothing her mother would do about the incident. And true to his words, Ruwona’s mother did not flinch upon hearing the gruesome crime that befell her daughter.

“In the evening when my mother came I told her everything. It was a simple thing to her and she never took it seriously. I told her I am bleeding and she said go and wash up we will talk about this some other time. Just like that suddenly I recalled that man’s words and I truly believed him. Till then I have not told anyone about this. I thought my mother is going to protect me, so if my mother failed to protect me no one else could protect me,” said a distraught Ruwona.

Seeking help after being raped

“Physically I had no desire to have sexual intercourse, I was scared. Years passed by and emotionally I was still battling because there were days I had flashbacks of the rape. It’s like a wound, it can never heal but it can stop bleeding. It never heals. It will bleed another time. I felt uncomfortable around men and I never went for counselling. I never went for anything, I thought I will cope on my own,” she said.

“So one day I decided enough is enough and I decided to speak out. That time I figured counselling would be best.  I later went for counselling and I was doing well. I had to accept it happened and put everything in the past. Forgiving my mother helped me to heal.”

Director of Save A Woman, Babedi Samakabadi, has highlighted that rape is a permanent wound that one has to live with for the rest of their lives.

“The first thing the victim can do is to admit that they have been abused and they should be able to talk about it to whoever they can trust; could be a close relative, a counsellor, a friend or a pastor. It is not easy to take a step towards your healing but it must be done.

Victims of rape, must create a huge room in their hearts to forgive the perpetrators even when they are not sorry, forgiveness will help the victim to make peace with life and the future. Forgiveness will allow the victim to be able to get over the horrible experience and not associate the intimate relations as abuse at all times,” said Samakabadi.

“If one doesn’t allow themselves to heal and move on, dating and engaging in intimate matters are going to be a problem in their lives. As the victim can disclose to whoever they trust like friends or family, they are also advised to seek more especially professional counselling for proper psychological therapy, as the memories of the incident may torment the victim therefore  therapy may assist with getting to live with such memories without being drawn back or life progress being affected . Lastly, the victims must know that issues as these aren’t easy to deal with through our own ability, we need God for strength, wisdom and courage. We have no power to diminish some of the weight in our emotions or the damage done to our souls and hearts, hence we need God to carry us through.”

If you or a loved one is in need of help in dealing with rape or gender based violence, the following organisations provide free counselling services;

BOFWA (Botswana Family Welfare Association) 390 0489

BOSASNET (Botswana Substance Abuse Support Network) 395 9119

LIFE LINE 391 1270

MBGE (Men and Boys for Gender Equality) 395 7763

BGBVC (Botswana Gender Based Violence and Support Centre) 390 7659

BOCAIP (Botswana Christian AIDS Intervention Programme) 391 6454

Princess Marina Psychiatric Clinic

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200,000 Members of International Church Hold Virtual Prayer Service for Covid-19

22nd September 2020
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After its initial outbreak with a cluster of pneumonia cases at a seafood, poultry and live wildlife market in Wuhan City, China, Covid-19 has spread rapidly across the globe. The virus has hammered economies worldwide and brought devastation to many.

On 16 September Shincheonji Church of Jesus, a church with thousands of members in various countries, held a global online prayer service to pray for the victims of the coronavirus and their families, healthcare workers, government officials and for the complete eradication of and cure for Covid-19.

The virtual prayer service was live-streamed to the entire congregation with more than 200,000 members in countries all over the world participating, including the USA, the United Kingdom, South Korea, Australia, South Africa, Namibia and Zimbabwe.

In keeping with social distancing, health protocols and protecting its members from possible exposure to the coronavirus, Shincheonji arranged the virtual gathering for members to pray together in safety and set an example for others.

Prayers were mainly for the healing of those infected with the virus, for overworked healthcare workers who are struggling to fight Covid-19, and for people in economic distress in the wake of the pandemic. The overwhelming online participation from its members worldwide showed the desire and urgency to end this virus and for healing and restoration in communities.

The Chairman of Shincheonji Church Mr Manhee Lee suggested this online virtual gathering and said that all believers will continue to pray at the church’s worship services until the complete eradication of the coronavirus.

At least 1,700 of the church’s South Korean-based congregation have donated their blood plasma for research around an effective treatment. Convalescent plasma has also showed promise as therapy for Covid-19 and is believed to have reduced the severity of symptoms in critical patients.

“In order to defeat Covid-19, we need to embrace, love, and unite,” as global citizens, the church said. “We wanted to do all we can as believers by praying for the people working to prevent the spread of the virus and healthcare workers who are working at the frontlines of this battle against Covid-19 and we believe that God will answer our earnest prayers.”

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AFRIMMA nominates Vee Mampeezy

22nd September 2020
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The annual prestigious music awards, African Muzik Magazine Awards and Music Festival (AFRIMMA), has resumed this year. But this time around with a virtual version of it.

The awards that celebrate the originality of African music has unveiled their seventh edition. The awards seek to promote the African talent by bringing together on the same stage African legendary artists to celebrate African culture.

The event was established by the International Committee of AFRIMMA, in collaboration with African Union to reward and celebrate musical works, talents and creativity around the African continent while promoting the African cultural heritage amongst African countries.

However after the Covid-19 global pandemic, the event will not be hosted on a live global stage, but it will be hosted virtually and nominees are expected to deliver their performances virtually. The AFRIMMA Virtual Awards 2020 is set to be the first of its kind in the African music world with performances coming from different artists around the world and audience catching the performances, speeches and award presentations on multiple streaming devices.

Amongst the many who are nominated by the AFRIMMAs is local sensation Vee Mampeezy who has been nominated in the category for Best Male Southern African alongside music giants, Black Coffee- South Africa, Slap Dee – Zambia, Cassper Nyovest- South Africa, Master KG- South Africa, Jah Prayzah – Zimbabwe, Vee Mampeezy – Botswana, Shyn – Madagascar, Tshego- South Africa, Tha Dogg – Namibia and Yanga Chief – South Africa.

Mampeezy has established with WeekendLife that prior to that, he had received an email from AFRIMMA confirming his nomination. They wished for him to perform which he said he will confirm the performance first with his manager, but as for now he is not sure if he will be performing.

“We have accepted the nomination. It is such an honour to be nominated alongside music giants like Black Coffee. I am very excited, others I am not as excited to be nominated alongside them because I have been nominated before with them. I do not mean to say they are not great, they are great in their respective right,” he said.

“We should be excited as a country that Botswana has been nominated as well. Before anything else, the fact that we are there as nominees makes us winners. It is such an honour to be recognised more so that Botswana is a small country with a very small population.”

Famous and most decorated artists the likes of Diamond Platnumz, Mr Flavour, Harmonize, Davido and Jah Prayzah are also amongst the nominees. However, South African based artist affectionately known as Master KG has been nominated six times for Video of the year, Best Male Southern Africa, Artist of the year, Best Collaboration as well as song of the year.

Master KG’s song ‘Jerusalem’ has been making waves internationally, and it was used mostly during the pandemic to shake off the Covid-19 anxiety. The song was nominated after South African Music Awards (SAMA) failed to nominate the young talented artist.

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