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How safe are we, with our Doctors?

Dr Boima

I went through a mix of feelings as I was reading a story published in Weekend Post (April 25 – 01 May 2015) titled ‘A Medical Doctor who rapes with his thick fingers’. First it was a chilling sensation down my spine, imagining what the poor lady could have felt at the hands of someone who was supposed to protect and help her. Then as an afterthought, I thought ‘’what if this is not true’’.

In the story the female patient alleges that sometime in 2012, in Lobatse, a male private Doctor improperly examined her (an exam that was not even indicated) and forcibly kissed her in the absence of anyone.

Is it possible that the lady could have been sexually assaulted by the Doctor? Yes

Could it be possible that the testimony could have been a made up story? Yes

Only the Doctor and the patient know the truth!!!

Anyway the point is not to scrutinise the viability of the story but to reflect on how safe our patients feel with us and vice versa. Yes…there have been stories of health professionals stalked or sexually harassed by patients.

What Patients prefer?

It is no doubt that the most precious and sacred form of personal information that humans possess is their body. It is so personal and intimate that we frequently hide it. This is not surprising that visiting a Doctor and allowing for an intricate examination of our bodies is a source of anxiety for us. In some study that was carried out online, some female patients mentioned that they would never have a male as their gynaecologist because of the following reasons;

– “because a man would only want that job if he were a pervert”

– “only a woman could truly understand female problems”

– “my husband does not want another man touching me down there”

– “because I just feel safe and not vulnerable with another female”

However there is still a percentage of women who feel a male gynaecologist is the way to go;

“male gynaes are usually very gentle while handling you because they can only imagine what you are going through, as they themselves have never undergone such, while female gynaes tend to be more on the rough side”

“it does not feel alright for another female to be looking at your bits, for a man it is natural and acceptable”
Both these views were shared by the local folk as well.

Why men become Gynaecologists?

While in the past, pelvic examinations in women were only done by female Doctors, there is sufficient evidence in literature today that demonstrates a gynaecologist’s gender is not an issue. Another study carried out to determine why men have actually broken through in a field traditionally known as a female’s territory revealed the following;

– delivery of babies is something they enjoy

– because of a female relative (often their mother) who died young from breast cancer, ovarian cancer or other gynaecological pathology

– there is a sense that by helping their patients they are honouring their mothers

– they have incredible respect for women and what their bodies are capable of

Medical laws

By early 1800s, there was already use of ‘chaperones’ as part of a clinical examination. From the standpoint of ethics, the protocol of having chaperones available on a consistent basis for patient examinations is recommended. The chaperone’s role is to emotionally support and reassure the patient during a procedure that s/he finds embarrassing or uncomfortable.

The chaperone also acts as a witness against possible sexual misconduct by the clinician. However, there has been a huge debate as to whether chaperone policies protect the patient or the Doctor as sometimes they can work against what the patient prefers.

A chaperone can be in the form of another Doctor, a nurse, or any other health care worker. Most hospitals both internationally and locally mandate that chaperones be present for breast, rectal or pelvic examinations. But is this actually happening in practice?

In our country, adherence to these rules varies;

Often the issue is lack of staff

No time to track someone down in a busy clinic

Some clinicians think it feels awkward bringing a third party into the room (for different reasons)

Some clinicians feel having a third party implies that they cannot be trusted and must be sharply watched

Some female Doctors feel it just doesn’t feel necessary as most cases of sexual misconduct involve their male counterparts

Patient’s reasons (presence of chaperones can make an awkward situation even more uncomfortable)

What do patients feel about Chaperones?
Studies show that most female patients would want a chaperone present during an intimate examination by a male Doctor (but if the Doctor is a female, the number is extremely low to none)
Male patients reported NOT to want any third party in the room, regardless of the gender of the physician

At the end of the day, it’s the patient’s choice to have a chaperone present during an intimate exam with either a male or female doctor. The goal is to engender trust and make our patients as comfortable as possible, and to avoid such stories as the one quoted in this column.

 And patients must keep this in mind “it is not about gender, there are other characteristics that take precedence in a physician like communication, personal style, training, experience and empathy. Male or female, a good Doctor is just a good Doctor!

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Dark COVID-19 cloud engulf Festive gigs

23rd November 2020
Festive season to be punctuated by social distancing.

With Government tightening the noose around public areas through the State of Public Emergency tool, it is very unlikely that there could be celebrations this festive season.

Just this week Government, through the Government Gazette announced that hawkers will not be allowed to go inside parked buses to sell their goods; while at the same time buses will only be allowed to enter the bus rank to pick and drop.

This move is further instructive to the entertainment or creative industry that things are far from being let loose to allow for staging of festivals and gigs.

As the year comes to an end, artists normally anticipate increased rate of bookings inside and outside the country. This looks set not to be the case this year as the spread of COVID-19 remains a threat and Botswana is still under the State of Public Emergency.

As things stand large shows that attract multitudes are prohibited, as per the Emergency Regulations signed by President Dr Mokgweetsi Masisi. This is the period when events such as Born & Raised, Gaabo Motho and many more normally have their bread buttered.

When COVID-19 reached Botswana shores in February other big events such as The Hamptons, Gaborone International Music & Culture week (GIMC), African Attire on Fleek, Soul Fill Up with Franco and many more who were anticipating a great return were forced to cancel due to covid-19 restrictions.

Indications point to a Christmas and New Year that would be dominated by law enforcement officers patrolling the streets to ensure adherence to social distancing. Big music industry players like Vee Mampeezy can only hope that their industry will be opened – but this end does not appear in sight.

The popular musician recently spoke to this reporter and confirmed that he is running at a loss, “usually at this time of the year I am usually fully booked,” he said.“Obviously we are affected. We are only hoping that the government will open. We believe they will open.

This year, it is very rough, we are only getting bookings there and there by people who are doing events. I have lost too much money this season. A lot of it,” said Vee Mampeezy.As for Maxy, the songstress is not sure how things are coming up this festive season but she is positive that something is in the pipeline for her.

“I really don’t know; but as for me it’s been better for I have been getting a few corporate gigs there and there due to my corporate market clientele. As for what I’m planning, only time will tell depending on the COVID-19 rules and what is presented on the table for me because I don’t do nor organise my own gigs but I only take bookings from paying event organisers,” she said.

Amidst positive news on vaccine developments and successful trials, the coronavirus is surging in Europe with some countries announcing partial lockdowns to control the spread. On the 16th November 2020, through his formal missive noted that COVID-19 remains a concern in the country as infections continue rising. “As of 11th November 2020, Botswana had recorded 9103 cases.”

So far 30 people have died due to complications linked to COVID-19. Most of the deaths have been recorded in the Greater Gaborone area with the COVID-19 task team analysis depicting that Botswana records one death for every 250 positive cases detected.

Botswana currently has 837 active cases and 6801 recoveries.

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Beauty Tips Skin Prep- The key to flawless make up

23rd November 2020
BEAUTY TIPS-skin prep- the key to flawless make up. PICTURE SOURCE(LUX MAGAZINE, 2020)


Have you been drooling over stunning make up looks posted by models, artists and influencers on social media? Have you tried to copy their looks, used the products advertised on their post, but your make up isn’t the same as theirs?

Here is the thing, you can devote hours blending out your foundation, crafting a flawless eye shadow look and mastering the perfect dewy highlight but your makeup will only be as good as its base. What do I mean by that? Well, prepping your skin correctly can make a world of a difference when it comes to applying your makeup.

Follow these steps for a flawless skin prep routine:

Step1: Cleansing has so many benefits for the skin. Not only does regular cleansing help retain pore size, but it also aids to create supple-looking and healthy skin. If you have oily skin, perhaps try the double cleansing trend as this can prevent the production of excess oils. For the best makeup application, cleanse in the remove any toxins built up from the night.

Step 2: Exfoliate, alongside your morning cleanse, it is vital to also exfoliate your skin. Not only will this get rid of any dead skin cells on the surface of your skin, but it will clear the skin of any accumulating sweat, bacteria and dirt. Alongside providing the ultimate smooth base for makeup application, it will help to minimise your pores for flawless looking makeup.

Step 3: Toner is the intermediate step, but it is a step that should not be overlooked. It is a great addition to your skincare routine because it prevents ingrown hairs, refreshes the skin and shrinks pores. For maximum hydration to the skin, toner should be applied after cleansing and before moisturising. Hydrated skin will result in a smooth, plump complexion, and therefore better-looking makeup.

Step 4: Moisturize, Lightly massaging your skin with a moisturizer will hydrate your skin, improve blood circulation and brighten it instantly. Choose a moisturizer that works well for your skin type, anything that does not absorb well or isn’t too hydrating for your skin is of no use. Opt for oil-free moisturizers such as the Ponds Super Light Gel Oil Free Moisturizer for oily skin. Dry skin should be moisturized with cream or oil-based moisturizers such as the Simple Kind To Skin Replenishing Rich Moisturizer.

Step 5: lip prep If you have ever applied lipstick on dry, chapped lips, you have probably noticed your lipstick flaking off. To combat this, use a lip scrub to ensure the best lipstick results and to get rid of any dry skin. An added benefit to using a lip scrub is that it prevents any discolouration on your lips, so you look your best makeup- free too. Be sure to use a lip balm immediately after to keep your lips soft and supple

Step 6: Prime, It is rare that your skin will always look flawless. Naturally, we all occasionally get acne, enlarged pores and imperfections. However, a primer can really help to provide a good base for your makeup. Primers fill in the pores on the skin, smooth out blemishes and provide a natural glow to the skin. Not only do they help to prevent your makeup sliding off your face, but there is now a primer for almost every skin condition. For example, if you have uneven pigmentation in your skin, you can opt for a colour correcting primer whereas if you suffer mainly from enlarged pores, try a blurring prime.

Now that you’ve let your primer sink into the skin, you’re ready to proceed with foundation. If you would like a rundown of how to get the best make up tips let me know! Go checkout a few detailed classes on our social media pages

@MKM make up. Stay glowy!










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The return of My African Dream

20th November 2020
My African dream

The country’s then popular eponymous talent search show My African Dream MAD is officially back. My African Dream is popularly known for scouting talent and cultivating it to be something of great worth in the entertainment sector. The show has produced today’s prominent artists such as the notorious ATI, DJ Guyvos as well as Amanandos amongst others.

That was before the dream shuttered because the talent show has been off BTV screens for years now. Reasons for this miserable reality are still not known even up to this day. Anyway, the new virtual edition of My African Dream was launched this week at the Riverwalk Mall Courtyard.

Riverwalk Mall is famously known for birthing My African Dream back in the days. The shopping complex used the idea as a way of promoting itself, as it was relatively new in the capital city, so this was a needed shot in the arm.

The revived My African Dream 2020 shall scour the country virtually. This is obviously because of the devastating COVID-19 pandemic that had shattered the entire world. The digital submissions will be made on the My African Dream website and sorted following which the public will be invited to vote for the Top 16 finalists.

According to the My African Dream team leader, Losika Seboni, the nationwide talent search show has had a great impact in the growth of the arts and entertainment sector in Botswana. He says this is a platform that gave many aspiring creatives and artists a chance to explore their talents, abilities and aspirations.

“My African Dream has been geared towards the cultivation of arts through music, dance and performance. Since 1996, My African Dream has given thousands of Batswana youth the platform to express themselves through the arts and has had success in the form of national icons such as ATI, Han C, Samantha Mogwe, Rosemary as well as Marang.

In order to dig up more young talent, Seboni indicated that they saw it critical to bring back to life the talent search, with the help of partners that subsidized finances and technical aspects of the show, that is anticipated to bring flair, fair adjudicating, lights and red carpet event.

A local communications operator Mascom boosted the talent show with P350 000, as a way of encouraging the growth of arts and entertainment sector in the country. I must say this is a creditable gesture coming from Mascom. The arts and entertainment sector has been gravely hit by the Corona-virus blight, and having corporates and private companies coming to the party to succor the sector, is really a remarkable participation.

The organizers told Weekendlife that they will be opening up for submissions this week. Because now the world is moving towards a digital space, interested parties have been urged to record their audition and submission on the MAD official Facebook page, or alternatively the website.

Clearly not a stranger to the spotlight, the bubbly Peelo Mookodi was announced as the host of My African Dream 2020. She was a firm fan favorite on Sabc 3’s Presenter Search and week after week her fan base just kept on growing.  Whereas most people would shy away from the kind of scrutiny that comes with being any sort of host (Family functions included) she dazzles with a confidence that’s somewhere between God given and self-taught & mastered

Before she was on SABC, interviewing South Africa’s power socialites, personalities and trendsetters both on red carpet and live on TV such as David Tlale and Somizi, the young woman sharpened her teeth in the Botswana entertainment industry, hosting a lifestyle show on BTV.

Not only that, she was crowned the first ever Miss Africa Botswana and was set to represent Botswana at the continental Miss Africa pageant when an unfortunate clash of victories occurred. During her reign as Miss Africa BW she participated in another pageant and was crowned 1st Princess, which was apparently contrary to her agreement with the Miss Africa pageant organizers.

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