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Friday, 19 April 2024

How safe are we, with our Doctors?

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Dr Boima
HEALTH ISSUES

I went through a mix of feelings as I was reading a story published in Weekend Post (April 25 – 01 May 2015) titled ‘A Medical Doctor who rapes with his thick fingers’. First it was a chilling sensation down my spine, imagining what the poor lady could have felt at the hands of someone who was supposed to protect and help her. Then as an afterthought, I thought ‘’what if this is not true’’.

In the story the female patient alleges that sometime in 2012, in Lobatse, a male private Doctor improperly examined her (an exam that was not even indicated) and forcibly kissed her in the absence of anyone.

Is it possible that the lady could have been sexually assaulted by the Doctor? Yes

Could it be possible that the testimony could have been a made up story? Yes

Only the Doctor and the patient know the truth!!!

Anyway the point is not to scrutinise the viability of the story but to reflect on how safe our patients feel with us and vice versa. Yes…there have been stories of health professionals stalked or sexually harassed by patients.

What Patients prefer?

It is no doubt that the most precious and sacred form of personal information that humans possess is their body. It is so personal and intimate that we frequently hide it. This is not surprising that visiting a Doctor and allowing for an intricate examination of our bodies is a source of anxiety for us. In some study that was carried out online, some female patients mentioned that they would never have a male as their gynaecologist because of the following reasons;

– “because a man would only want that job if he were a pervert”

– “only a woman could truly understand female problems”

– “my husband does not want another man touching me down there”

– “because I just feel safe and not vulnerable with another female”

However there is still a percentage of women who feel a male gynaecologist is the way to go;

“male gynaes are usually very gentle while handling you because they can only imagine what you are going through, as they themselves have never undergone such, while female gynaes tend to be more on the rough side”

“it does not feel alright for another female to be looking at your bits, for a man it is natural and acceptable”
Both these views were shared by the local folk as well.

Why men become Gynaecologists?

While in the past, pelvic examinations in women were only done by female Doctors, there is sufficient evidence in literature today that demonstrates a gynaecologist’s gender is not an issue. Another study carried out to determine why men have actually broken through in a field traditionally known as a female’s territory revealed the following;

– delivery of babies is something they enjoy

– because of a female relative (often their mother) who died young from breast cancer, ovarian cancer or other gynaecological pathology

– there is a sense that by helping their patients they are honouring their mothers

– they have incredible respect for women and what their bodies are capable of

Medical laws

By early 1800s, there was already use of ‘chaperones’ as part of a clinical examination. From the standpoint of ethics, the protocol of having chaperones available on a consistent basis for patient examinations is recommended. The chaperone’s role is to emotionally support and reassure the patient during a procedure that s/he finds embarrassing or uncomfortable.

The chaperone also acts as a witness against possible sexual misconduct by the clinician. However, there has been a huge debate as to whether chaperone policies protect the patient or the Doctor as sometimes they can work against what the patient prefers.

A chaperone can be in the form of another Doctor, a nurse, or any other health care worker. Most hospitals both internationally and locally mandate that chaperones be present for breast, rectal or pelvic examinations. But is this actually happening in practice?

In our country, adherence to these rules varies;

Often the issue is lack of staff

No time to track someone down in a busy clinic

Some clinicians think it feels awkward bringing a third party into the room (for different reasons)

Some clinicians feel having a third party implies that they cannot be trusted and must be sharply watched

Some female Doctors feel it just doesn’t feel necessary as most cases of sexual misconduct involve their male counterparts

Patient’s reasons (presence of chaperones can make an awkward situation even more uncomfortable)

What do patients feel about Chaperones?
Studies show that most female patients would want a chaperone present during an intimate examination by a male Doctor (but if the Doctor is a female, the number is extremely low to none)
Male patients reported NOT to want any third party in the room, regardless of the gender of the physician

At the end of the day, it’s the patient’s choice to have a chaperone present during an intimate exam with either a male or female doctor. The goal is to engender trust and make our patients as comfortable as possible, and to avoid such stories as the one quoted in this column.


 And patients must keep this in mind “it is not about gender, there are other characteristics that take precedence in a physician like communication, personal style, training, experience and empathy. Male or female, a good Doctor is just a good Doctor!

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Radio titans gloss RB2

11th April 2024

 

In a thrilling turn of events, former YFM on-air presenter Petula Khulman, now known as Petula El’Kindiy, is set to co-host the morning show with the station’s current star, Thabo Bolokwe, fondly referred to as T.H.A.B.O. Petula’s radio journey began at Yarona FM and spanned over a year and a half, during which she honed her skills and developed a loyal fan base.

Petula, a Media Studies graduate from Rhodes University, holds a wealth of experience in the industry. Her career took her across borders, from Yarona FM to Gabz FM, and even to a community radio station, Bay FM. She later returned to YFM, where she hosted a show called The Plaground.

Her latest venture, “The Morning Essentials,” kicked off on July 1, 2020. The show, which airs from 3am to 5am on weekdays and 6am to 10am on Saturdays, quickly gained popularity among listeners. Petula attributes her success to her passion for media, music, and dance, as well as her appreciation for her colleagues at YFM.

However, her journey wasn’t without its challenges. In 2023, her work permit was denied by South African authorities, leading to a temporary pause in her radio career. Despite the setback, Petula remains undeterred and is ready to bring her bubbly personality and captivating voice back to the airwaves of RB2.

 

Adding to the excitement, Khumo ‘Missgeekays’ Kgwaadira is also making a comeback. The popular media personality and businesswoman, who was last heard on RB2 in October 2022, will be back on air from Monday. Missgeekays, who owns a restaurant called Kana Kgang, has been keeping herself busy with various ventures, including a stint as a freelance presenter.

Her return to RB2 is eagerly anticipated, and her fans are thrilled to hear that she will be back in her familiar mid-morning slot. The exact details of her show are still under wraps, but one thing is for sure – with the new lineup, RB2 is poised to make a big splash in the radio landscape.

“With the new lineup, RB2 will be the biggest thing ever. We expect fireworks and amusement from the morning through mid-morning and the afternoons. All the faces that are returning to the airwaves will contribute to the radio station’s growth and a snowballing of listenership,” a source close to the station revealed.

So, get ready for a thrilling ride as RB2 unveils its new look and lineup this coming Monday. With Petula El’Kindiy and Khumo ‘Missgeekays’ Kgwaadira leading the charge, there’s no doubt that RB2 is back, and it’s bigger and better than ever!

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Strawberry Ritual: An unconventional key to virtual interview success

11th April 2024

In the modern era of swift communication, where digital platforms have become the cornerstone of professional interactions, mastering the nuances of a Zoom interview is a vital skill for job applicants. The pivot towards remote work has rendered platforms like Zoom indispensable for establishing connections with prospective employers. So, imagine if we told you that a humble fruit could be the secret ingredient to enhancing your self-assurance and excelling in that virtual interview? Indeed, the fruit in question is the strawberry!

“A whopping 59.1% of the workforce prefers remote work over a conventional office setting,” asserts Forbes, a staggering fact that underscores the global trend of working from home. In the UK, Zoom witnessed a dramatic surge in its daily active users (DAU), peaking at approximately 1.7 million around the end of November 2020. This significant upswing in DAU coincided with the onset of the coronavirus outbreak in the UK, as more individuals began participating in virtual meetings for both work and social engagements with their families and friends.

But how does a strawberry fit into this narrative? What might seem like a punchline to a whimsical joke could revolutionize your approach to virtual job interviews. CEO Chantry Somtun of JustBanter shares this ingenious trick that could make a world of difference.

According to CEO Chantry Somtun of JustBanter, consuming a strawberry before your Zoom call could have a profound impact on your performance. The National Institute of Health has discovered that strawberries contain folate, a compound that aids in calming nerves and reducing anxiety by stimulating the production of serotonin, a hormone crucial for maintaining a positive mood and mental well-being. Moreover, strawberries are teeming with anthocyanins, antioxidants that enhance brain and emotional health, making them an excellent choice for those seeking to alleviate stress and anxiety before significant virtual meetings.

So, how can you incorporate this simple yet potent trick into your pre-Zoom routine? It’s as straightforward as savoring a few fresh strawberries 10-20 minutes before your call. If fresh strawberries are unavailable, frozen ones or even a refreshing strawberry smoothie can serve as excellent alternatives. For the best results, consume the strawberries on an empty stomach to ensure faster absorption of folate and maximize their mood-enhancing benefits.

Beyond just soothing your nerves before a critical interview, strawberries offer a myriad of health benefits, such as being rich in antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals that contribute to overall well-being. By integrating strawberries into your pre-Zoom ritual, you can not only boost your confidence but also support your body’s health in the process.

In a competitive job market where first impressions matter, adopting this unconventional yet effective strategy could be the game-changer you need to distinguish yourself and leave a lasting impression on potential employers. Therefore, the next time you have a Zoom interview scheduled, reach for some strawberries and experience the positive difference they can make in enhancing your confidence and performance.

In a world where virtual connections have become the new norm, utilizing simple yet powerful techniques like the strawberry trick can set you apart and help you navigate the challenges of virtual job interviews with ease. By capitalizing on the natural benefits of this humble fruit, you can elevate your Zoom confidence to unprecedented heights and pave the way for success in your job search. So, why not seize the day? Grab some strawberries, take a bite, and witness your Zoom interview game soar to new heights!

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Mrs Botswana’s ‘MO’ to gender parity

18th March 2024
Mrs. Portiah S Mokgathong

Mrs. Portiah S Mokgathong, an illustrious beacon brightening the corners of Botswana, wields her vision for gender equity and empowerment like a torch, illuminating paths for her community. Standing at the helm of the Anaya-Tlhwatlhwa Foundation, and donning multiple hats as an international personal wellness coach, a savvy business magnate, and the esteemed Mrs. Botswana 2023/24, her mission is to cast rays of change into the lives she touches.

Her strategy for bridging the gender divide is both comprehensive and visionary. Mokgathong, understanding the vitality of lifting women and girls, equally champions the cause of young boys and men. She advocates for a culture of mutual admiration and understanding across gender lines, fostering a society unbound by the shackles of conventional gender roles—a society where balance and harmony reign supreme.

 

In her magnum opus, a collaborative venture with entities like NAPHA, Men and Boys for Gender Justice, the Botswana Police Service, and Girls for Girls Botswana, lies a quest for familial empowerment. Her goal is to fortify the foundation of families, supporting parents and guardians, sons and daughters alike, equipping them with the capabilities to forge strong intrapersonal and professional bonds.

 

“My project is family oriented, we want to focus on the family as a whole, we want to help both parents or guardians, men and women and the children of households both boy and girl. I am passionate in doing so because lately women and the girl child have been given a pedestal, they have been given a lot of help and a lot of recognition while men are considered as perpetrators and young boys are neglected, therefore we want to groom both the girl and boy child so that they grow up to be able to interact with each other and when they get to relationships, be it personal or work wise,” she said.

 

Mokgathong’s reach extends further than mere intervention; she invests in the empowerment of individuals through education, skill development, and the allocation of resources crucial for autonomy and enduring triumphs. By nurturing innate capabilities, igniting the flames of innovation, and promoting entrepreneurship, she sets the stage for marginalized communities to emerge from the shadows of dependency, crafting their own realms of prosperity.

 

“As we educate a girl child to be strong and independent, we also enable a young man or boy to be able to accept that strong independent woman, ensuring that the equation is balanced. I also want to help stop gender-based violence while protecting our children. When I began my initiative, it was based on GBV and child protection, but it developed into campaigning for the less fortunate and vulnerable,” she stresses.

 

Her journey, fraught with hurdles, including early disappointments in her pursuit of the Mrs. Botswana title, stands testament to her resilience and indomitable spirit. Gratitude fills her heart for mentors, sponsors, kin, and comrades whose support has sculpted her into the powerhouse she is today.

 

She says: “People want to be involved with you when you are a top finalist or the reigning queen. When I first started, I was only a person, and it was difficult and time-consuming to generate cash, solicit donations, and obtain obligation, particularly in rural areas. But right now, as the reigning queen it is a bit easier to reach out to collaborators and sponsors and I pray to God that as I am continuing with my project after crowning the new queen it will continue to be so and growth and more people will be willing to invest and help out.”

 

Juggling her myriad roles demands the prowess of a maestro, yet Mokgathong thrives by weaving her family into her philanthropic endeavors and mastering the art of time management. She empowers young aspirants to self-reflect, establish objectives, harness mentorship and sponsorship, and gear up for the trials that lie ahead.

 

As Mrs. Botswana, her ambition soars beyond personal accolades; it’s tethered to the upliftment of her nation through the empowerment of women, the nurturing of men’s talents, and the preparation of the youth for a flourishing future. She envisages expanding the Anaya-Tlhwatlhwa Foundation’s influence, delving deeper into rural engagements to sow seeds of empowerment and hope for generations yet to come.

 

“For charity work to be more effective, I believe we need to empower other than just giving. We need to empower the less privileged and the vulnerable, with the right skills and knowledge so that they can sustain themselves in the long run. We need to help those who are talented and innovative. I am proud to say my work is doing wonders, the kids that we are mentoring are able to find direction in life, they now know what they want to be as they grow up and they are able to identify subjects they want to study and career they want to pursue. Families that we have been in contact with, families that are from different background are able to identify their skills and they are able to grow and turn them into businesses.”

 

In essence, Mrs. Portiah S Mokgathong stands as a pillar of strength and a source of inspiration in Botswana. Her unwavering commitment to fostering gender equality, community upliftment, and personal development lights the way for others. Through her relentless endeavors and steadfast dedication, she renders a profound impact on her community and beyond, etching a durable mark of empowerment and optimism.

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