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Sex dolls: The new craze

The sex doll craze is currently sweeping across the world, but you would swear Botswana’s own folk musician, Stika Sola long predicted the future when he sang “Mosadi wa Legong.” 

The doll does not nag or answer back, and this might be the precise reason it is preferred over women-just the same reason Stika Sola preferred his wooden woman- submissive and obliging! The internet is bursting with silicone models of different sizes, colours and shapes- and almost all men approve of them, Batswana men are not exempt are some already fancy their chances with one of the dolls at some point!

There is a new word to describe individuals who uses high tech sex toys and gadgets for sexual gratification it is digi-sexual. Academics believe that in future, digi-sexuality will be counted as a sexual orientation. Further, they say, digisexuals will shun human partners in favour of the new kind of virtual reality porn and customisable robots able to speak and interact. And by the look of things, they are on to something. So far, by the look of things, men are excited about the use of sex dolls more than anything else ever! Just this week, a brothel stocked with sex dolls opened its doors to excited customers in the UK.

Although local men might not get to own one in Botswana because of legal reasons, their desire for one or few has been explicitly stated on social media. According to Publicity Secretary of Botswana Counselling Association, Keletso Tshekiso, the reason people engage sexually with dolls is because they are being used as an (sexual) aid.

“People opt for sex toys for sexual expression. This is a complex process through which we reveal our sexual self. They also do this for relaxation, for relief of sexual tension, because a partner is not available or does not want sex. Some do it for sexual pleasure, as an aid for not falling asleep and to avoid STI’s. Sex toys are used as an aid,” she said.

She however says that these dolls pose a threat of demeaning women and girls. “These dolls are made to be highly attractive thereby portraying women as exaggerated porn stars,” she said. Tshekiso further stated that she believes that in the future people will be marrying these sex robots, having babies with them and that we will also have digisexuality as a sexual orientation. But local pastors are saying their use is a sign of the end times.

In an Interview with WeekendLife, renowned Prophet Wycliff Haakantu, popularly known as the Game Changer who is also Goodwill Ambassador for Israel of Exceeding Grace Ministry International is of the view that the use of these objects is demonic.
“In as much as this thing looks right to their eyes this thing is not biblical, the bible says in the last days people will be lovers of themselves, boastful and people will do things as they wish. This is why we see these things coming up to day because the world has become corrupt. Today what we call abnormal is normal and what we call wrong is right in the sight of the world. This is why we find such things creeping into society.”

Haakantu argues that when creation was established God ordained a man and a woman and that all that we are seeing today that humanity has introduced is not biblical. “When God created man and woman he said they must and multiply and have children. You cannot multiply with a doll because it is not a living thing. These dolls are the works of man not the woks of God and you cannot compare the works of God with the works of the devil.

The work of man cannot overrule the work of God -that is an abomination. God gave us an instruction concern in Leviticus 18 concerning our sexuality. God forbids bestiality, incest. If God can forbid sexual acts from human to a human what more about those with dolls,” he said. Overseer of The Kingdom of God is at Hand, Ketshedile Modise has also condemned the use of sex dolls. “It is wrong. God did not design that at all. It's abomination. That is the same as idolatry. You cannot have an image which its role is to have sex with. Sex is correct in the boundaries of marriage between two human beings,” he said.

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Self-taught fashion designer speaks

26th July 2022

A job, lucrative or not, is a job after all. Sometimes one has to compromise in order to make a living, few people get a job their dream jobs. But once in a while there is an emergence of people who listen to their inner calling to pursue their passion.

The founder and head designer of Butterfly Couture, Chawa July is one of those few people who left their job to pursue their passion. An inspiring fact about July is that she is a self-taught fashion designer, she used to copy patterns from her old clothes until she learnt how to draw them, and she also searched information from the internet to increase her knowledge and skills.

“It all started as a hobby from my love for beautiful dresses and I started adjusting and making clothes for myself. Gradually people around me started to take interest in my craft and the hobby slowly grew into a profitable business,” July said.

The 41 year fashion designer from Molepolole worked her way up in the Procurement space for over 10 years. She worked at Stanbic Bank, Kromberg & Schubert and Clover Dairy as a Procurement supervisor. Her last job before she entered the fashion industry was a Manager for Contacts & Sourcing at a Facilities Management Company.

She established her fashion house in October 2019 and it has become synonyms with elegant wedding gowns and exquisite evening wear. July said when designing she is inspired by various aspects such as the client’s personality, the mood of the event and the theme. She further mentioned that every opportunity is to show her craft so she always aims to please.

“Every Butterfly Couture piece must represent the elegance and the creativity the brand is about,” she said. Butterfly Couture has adorned beauty queens; Miss Botswana 2021/2022 Ambrociah Samboko at Miss Universe in South Korea and Miss Botswana 2019,Oweditse Fafah Phirinyane during her reign of which is the highlight of her career. They have also marked their presence in a few fashion events locally and in the neighbouring countries.”

They showcased at The Grand Palm Wedding Expo, Masa Fashion Show, Miss Botswana Fashion Show and Sacunda plus Size Fashion Show. The will also be showcasing at Gabs July Fashion Show on the 15th of July alongside the South African designer, popularly known as the King of glamour David Tlale.

July also identified that one of the challenges they face in the couture is that, it’s a seasonal business. “There are times in the year when the business is great and challenging. Winter in particular, is difficult time to stay afloat as there aren’t as many events that people are inspired to dress spectacularly for,” she said. She further said that her aim is to be a prime couturier of choice in Botswana.

“Craft like your life depends on it because every happy client is 10 more referrals” is what she said when asked to serve a word of wisdom to people hoping to make it in the fashion industry.

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Gospel awards re-organised

26th July 2022

The Botswana Gospel Music Awards (BOGMA) and the Annual Gospel Awards (AGA) are said to be no longer in existence and a joint venture project has been put up that will carry out the awarding of gospel musicians.

The new entity has been established as Gospel Music Awards, which is a project at this moment is nearer to dishing out the first Gospel Awards under the leadership of the dissolved entities (BOGMA and AGA). “The difference is the same, it is just that the two projects were run by different minds which had differing objectives,” said the project coordinator, Letsweletse Moshabi when asked what the difference was between the two previous awards.

He added that at this junction their focus is on the future of the gospel musicians and they would like to direct their energies to the new project and forgo the past projects. “The Music market especially the gospel genre is too small and that basically means the very small market was experiencing the imbalance in the supply and demand forces. At that stage, supply was more than the demand so the reason for the joint forces is to allow the supply and demand forces to readjust and form equilibrium,” added Moshabi.

The mandate and objectives of the project are to recognize and award gospel music talent, to create awareness of the Botswana gospel music industry and to create a platform where fellow musicians may exchange ideas and network amongst themselves and approach international markets in cohesion.

The first of these joint awards will be held on the 27th August 2022 at Molapo Showcase under the theme ‘Cohesiveness to Build’ where about 18 categories will be up for grabs.

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Makhadzi, Master KG invade Thamaga

18th July 2022

The Kumnandi Ekhaya musik festival will be held on the 30th September 2022 at Thamaga village. The event coincides with the release of famous host, Dj Ngwazi’s first album called ‘spring day’ on the 2nd of September 2022.

The Thamaga born and raised Lefika Lushen Kebatlege is a disc jockey and a music producer signed under WanitwaMos Entertainment in South Africa. Famously known as Dj Ngwazi and formally known as DJ superstar, he has really worked hard to become one of the finest export DJs the country has produced. Internationally, he is described as a DJ from South African because of his works with popular music artist Master KG.

Meanwhile, the music festival will feature South African artists, Makhazi, Master KG, Prince Benza and Mthunzi. They will also be joined by some of the big local artists, Franco, Vee Mampeezy, among others.  “The tickets of the concert will be available at Spar stores, webticket and Kings bar. There will be three categories for VIP tickets, the one that goes for P1000, P1500 and P2200,” said the Kumnandi Ekhaya musik fest promoter Sadie Swartz of Saysay Entertainment.

“We have a new system to tackle the cry of promoters about security at the events. We will have a team of 100 security men, 10 horses and 15 dogs. We also agreed with the police to help with traffic control and no tickets will be sold at the gate to avoid circulation of money which can attract thieves,” said Kagiso Gaodumelwe from All Night Security.

“I started deejaying back in the days when I was still schooling at Kagiso Senior School and I never stopped working towards my career since then. I have a career in South Africa, since 2018 when Master KG took me in and his support as a brother has taken me to places,” said DJ Ngwazi describing his career journey.

“Kumnandi Ekhaya is Zulu language which means ‘go monate ko gae’ in Setswana. The name came about as a way of inviting my South African fans and supporters to my home village Thamaga to come experience the joy that comes with celebrating our freedom and independence. I used isiZulu because it’s the dominant language in South Africa,” explained Dj Ngwazi.

“The concert will be held in an open space which was used for agricultural purposes and we would like to call it ‘Ko Legoleng’. With this concert I want to redeem the dignity of our village because we once had the cases of youth who were terrorizing the community, beating up people in the streets and stealing and these was really a concern in our community because they were tarnishing the village name,” said Dj Ngwazi.

The purpose of this concert is to empower the community of Thamaga and local artist, more especially artist from Thamaga village like, Kgabo Sereto traditional group. There will be a litter picking campaign around the village before the launch of the concert .The sponsors which are already on board are Dladleng Entertainment and Kings bar and there are still more sponsors to be revealed.

”As the Kumnandi Ekhaya musik fest management, we are going to buy food combos and take them to Thamaga village Kgotla so they can be donated to the less privileged and orphans. Starting from October we will be donating pads to all Junior Schools in Thamaga,” said Dj Ngwazi. Dj Ngwazi’s motivational words to other artist and everyone else; work hard, be patient and be determined.

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