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We need to talk about violence to men and boys

Contrary to what many think, violence doesn’t always come with a glaring warning. It can happen to both women and men as well as their children.Highly intelligent people are at risk too as it does not just strike those with average intelligence. It is a creature of pain, isolation, and humiliation that causes deep wounds inflicted by deeply wounded people.

Even though we live in a society that has more resources than ever before to help those in these situations, we still hear stories of those who didn’t make it out. National statistics on domestic violence say 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe domestic violence. What can we do about this? How can we teach our children more effective coping methods so they can grow up to be healthy functioning people?

Where is that pivotal turning point that damages our once sweet children and turns them into wounded souls who could ultimately do the unthinkable to another? Who is there to blame? Is it a society that turns a blind eye to behavioural health issues until it’s too late? Is it families who are simply trying to survive so they miss the signs of distressed children? Is it a culture that says if you appear to be weaker you will get mistreated and people will say shout out the tired, and illogical statement “man up or woman up?” Is it the portrayal of control and command one must have that we see in our valiant heroes in movies and television shows who are pressed to let people know who the boss is?

The truth of the matter is that blaming won’t fix the problem. We must begin to recognize first there IS a problem and work in our own homes to resolve it. Are we having conversations with our children about effective ways to communicate, how to show love, how to be loved and how to handle rejection? Are we allowing our children to feel sadness from being rejected every now and then while we teach them skills in resilience to get through the issues?

Fathers, brothers, uncles, and grandfathers alike can have a role in helping to curb domestic violence. Become the advocate against domestic violence in your own family. Pay attention to the interactions of the children in your family early on whether they are your children or those of other relatives.

So many women have been killed this year from violence. The people charged with their deaths include their husbands, partners, ex-partners, sons, relatives, acquaintances and strangers. Sometimes their own children and grandchildren were killed with them.
Faced with these issues in our country, it is no surprise that White Ribbon Day elicits a mixture of enthusiasm and scepticism. The White Ribbon campaign aims to mobilise men and boys against violence against women and to promote gender equality and healthy relationships.
How, exactly, can men and boys prevent violence against women?

We can be conscious of the privileges that accrue to men in a sexist society; challenge misogynist behaviour; let go of gender stereotypes; intervene when you see a friend or stranger acting inappropriately; share the load of housework and child-rearing; champion gender equality at home, at work and in the community. No boy grows up aspiring to hurt the people he cares about. We all want to live in families and communities characterised by security, warmth and trust. However, violence destroys these relationships.

Violence is not a strategy in which men win and women lose. With violence, everybody loses. To end violence against women, we need to work with people in communities and institutions where change is needed, and even wanted, but hasn’t yet taken place. Bringing men and boys into the conversation that we can understand what they want out of their lives, show how violence is an obstacle to achieving those dreams, and find non-violent solutions.

There is no how we can try to fight violence against women without involving men. Otherwise we are going to raise an angry bitter nation like First Lady Neo Masisi said at the #EsengMoNgwaneng campaign launch. Let us celebrate men who are not violent. Men who are responsible, love and respect women, men who love their kids and want nothing but to love and protect their children. Doing so will make other men envy those men and want to be like that. Instead of talking about men who do bad, let us also talk about men who do good.

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TV Show explores Tswana culture

6th February 2024

Logaga Lwa Ditiragalo, a cultural exchange TV show, is set to ignite a genuine appreciation of diversity in Botswana and revitalize the country’s great tourism sector. In recent years, culture in Botswana has taken a backseat, leading to tribalism and narcissism that has caused division and resentment among different ethnic groups. However, a small group of individuals is determined to bring back the golden days of culture and restore unity among the people.

The TV show, Logaga Lwa Ditiragalo, aims to shine a spotlight on the diverse ethnic groups in Botswana, such as Balete, Bangwaketse, Baherero, Bakalaka, Bangwato, Bayei, Basarwa, Bakwena, Batswapong, and Bakgatla. By showcasing the distinctive characteristics, age-old traditions, and deeply rooted values of these cultural groups, the program seeks to foster a broader understanding and appreciation for Botswana’s rich cultural tapestry.

Recognizing the pivotal role of culture in shaping human identity, Logaga Lwa Ditiragalo aims to serve as a bridge across the cultural landscape. In an era of increasing global connectivity, the show believes that exposing individuals to different ethnic cultures can cultivate understanding, nurture respect, and ignite a genuine appreciation for diversity.

Beyond its entertainment value, the TV show holds substantial benefits for Botswana. It has the capacity to preserve the country’s unique heritage, traditions, and customs, contributing significantly to the nation’s sense of identity and pride. Moreover, the program’s portrayal of Botswana’s cultural richness is expected to attract tourists, invigorating the tourism sector and creating employment opportunities, thus bolstering the country’s economic landscape.

Logaga Lwa Ditiragalo also aims to be a catalyst for social cohesion, fostering unity among people from diverse backgrounds and promoting a deeper understanding of cultural diversity. By showcasing the beauty and richness of Botswana’s cultural heritage, the program seeks to bring people together and bridge the gaps that have been created by tribalism and narcissism.

The TV show is meticulously designed to captivate audiences interested in delving into the intricacies of ethnic cultures. With a commitment to both entertainment and education, Logaga Lwa Ditiragalo will unfold over forty days, starting in October 2024, captivating viewers on TV networks and various social media platforms.

At the heart of the TV show are twenty individuals chosen to represent the cultural diversity in Botswana. The inclusion of two individuals with disabilities underscores the program’s commitment to inclusivity and aligns seamlessly with the country’s vision of promoting equal opportunities for all.

The selection process for participants involves public participation, with interested individuals casting their votes through service providers. This transparent and inclusive cultural affair ensures that the TV show truly represents the diverse cultural landscape of Botswana.

Logaga Lwa Ditiragalo sets out to revive culture in Botswana, ignite a genuine appreciation of diversity, and revitalize the tourism sector. By showcasing the unique heritage, traditions, and customs of different ethnic groups, the TV show aims to foster unity, understanding, and respect among the people of Botswana. With its potential to attract tourists and create employment opportunities, Logaga Lwa Ditiragalo holds great promise for the country’s cultural and economic landscape.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Be with Thabo on the 14th February

6th February 2024

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and love is in the air. It’s the perfect time to celebrate with heartwarming music, and “Ha Kena Le Thabo” by the Dalom Kids is the ultimate anthem for this special day. This catchy tune not only captures the essence of the season but also carries a powerful message that resonates with listeners.

The Dalom Kids have taken the spotlight with their latest remix hit song, and it’s no surprise why. Their music has stood the test of time, and their songs are loved today as much as they were loved two decades ago. They have found a way to revamp their music, aligning it with the current times, and their collaboration with Nkosazana daughter By Master KG SA Music last year is a testament to their dedication to empowering individuals during difficult times.

“Ha Kena Le Thabo” is a song that encourages listeners to express their heartfelt appreciation towards their loved ones. It serves as a reminder to acknowledge and celebrate the love and support we receive from those who are dear to us. In a world that often moves too quickly, it’s easy to forget the significance of love and companionship. However, the Dalom Kids’ music reminds us of the indispensability of gratitude and how it strengthens the bonds we share with our loved ones.

The Dalom Kids have made a name for themselves in the South African music scene, captivating audiences for several decades. Their unique blend of contemporary sounds and traditional influences has left an indelible mark on the industry. Their songs have always carried important messages, addressing topics such as love, unity, and resilience.

Formed in 1987 by the late Daniel Tshanda, the group consists of Jacqueline Rotwana, Petronella Rampou, and Magdeline Zungu. Together, they have created music that resonates with people from all walks of life. Their songs are not only catchy but also carry a deeper meaning, touching the hearts of listeners.

“Ha Kena Le Thabo” effortlessly fits into the pattern of the Dalom Kids’ music, reinforcing the importance of acknowledging and celebrating the love we have in our lives. It serves as a reminder to slow down and appreciate the love and support we receive from our loved ones. In a world that can often be chaotic and overwhelming, this song brings a sense of calm and gratitude.

As Valentine’s Day approaches, let the music of the Dalom Kids inspire you to express your love and appreciation for those who bring joy to your life. Let “Ha Kena Le Thabo” be the soundtrack to your celebrations, as you embrace the spirit of gratitude and affection that this season represents. Take a moment to reflect on the love you have in your life and let this song be a reminder of the importance of expressing that love to those who matter most.

In conclusion, “Ha Kena Le Thabo” by the Dalom Kids is the perfect anthem for Valentine’s Day. Its catchy tune and powerful message make it an ideal song to celebrate love and gratitude. Let this song inspire you to express your love and appreciation for those who bring joy to your life. As you celebrate this special day, let the music of the Dalom Kids be the soundtrack to your celebrations, reminding you of the importance of love and companionship.

 

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Miss Botswana in full swing

18th January 2024

The Miss Botswana pageant is in full swing, with the top 10 finalists working tirelessly to impress the judges and secure the coveted title. This week, the finalists have been busy with their Beauty-With-A-Purpose projects, a crucial component of the Miss World pageant. The spotlight is on these young women as they showcase their commitment to making a difference in the lives of others.

The Beauty-With-A-Purpose documentation week is a crucial moment for the finalists. They will be filmed as they present their projects to the judges and the audience, highlighting the impact they have had on their communities. This aspect of the competition is particularly important, as Miss World advocates for the wellbeing of children. Therefore, the projects should be aligned with this mission and demonstrate a genuine commitment to improving the lives of children.

Unfortunately, Botswana has never won the Beauty-With-A-Purpose competition at Miss World. This suggests that previous projects from Miss Botswana queens may not have been convincing enough or may not have met the criteria set by Miss World. It is crucial for the finalists to ensure that their projects are compelling and directly address the needs of children in their communities.

The top 10 finalists for Miss Botswana are Relebanye Bakane, Anicia Gaothusi, Halle Hirschfeld, Lorato Kgangyapelo, Sebaga Manyepetsa, Otshepo Nthonyana, Charmaine Reasentse, Lefika Tladi, Emma Tshisimogo, and Christina Vanstaden. These young women have shown great dedication and passion throughout the competition, and it is clear that they are determined to make a difference.

The Miss Botswana Organization has been proactive in ensuring that the pageant is inclusive and representative of the entire country. Auditions were held across the country, allowing Batswana from all regions to participate in the journey. Additionally, a mini fashion show and beauty showcase were organized to highlight the talents and beauty of the contestants.

The Miss Botswana pageant has been a major event in the country, with 34 episodes documenting the journey to finding the next queen. The Top 30 finalists were celebrated with a grand launch, and the plans for their journey were unveiled. The organization has spared no effort in ensuring that the pageant is a memorable and impactful experience for all involved.

The highly anticipated Miss Botswana Top 10 launch will take place next week. The reigning Miss Botswana, Lesego Chombo, will represent the country at the 71st edition of Miss World, which will be held in New Delhi, India on March 2, 2024. Chombo was crowned by Polish model and Miss World 2021, Karolina Bielawska, who made a special appearance at the finale in October 2022. Chombo will now have the honor of crowning her successor at the upcoming pageant.

As the finale approaches, the heat is on in Miss Botswana’s kitchen. The top 10 finalists are working tirelessly to showcase their Beauty-With-A-Purpose projects and make a lasting impact. It is an exciting time for these young women, and the entire country is eagerly awaiting the crowning of the next Miss Botswana.

 

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