The word ‘’butterfly’’ has been making headlines week-in-week-out in the country for quite a stretch now, and I can attest to that, these butterflies are not here to add numbers. So, please, allow me to borrow this word just for now.
So, these butterflies do not only possess some of the most striking colour displays found in nature, some have lots of coin in their bank accounts. As they fly from flower to flower gathering some cash, their brightly colored wings seem to shimmer and change colours before your eyes. A butterfly’s rich colour can act as camouflage, mate and money attraction and warning signal. It must be pretty imperturbable being a ‘butterfly’ in Botswana, as you can get rich instantly…I mean, your aristocracies will be out there perspiring for slight monies and you be there getting sums, just because of your gloss…or perhaps your colours! Incredible!
Well, some of these butterflies are in to do some toil. They get their different shades of brown and yellow from their talent, and in this regard being singing. This is the same flair that makes you contented, and that will definitely give you goosebumps. I know you there wondering what I am talking about, but you definitely know. Stop being hard to understand…we on this together and I got you. The most revered and equally talented young artistes in the country, Motlha, DoubleUp and Han C literally shut down Maitisong theatre in Maruapula at the much anticipated Khoisan goes Live event last week Friday.
Khoisan is a musical duo that has been in the industry for less than a year, but has been making strides, headlines and turning heads wherever they go. Initially, the group had five members and has now trimmed to just two, Oratile Kofa and Thabang Rasefako. Reasons for this peculiar split remain unknown, and it’s not only them, this year we saw yet another blue split from the biggest band in Botswana, Team Distant! Just like Khoisan, the group trimmed to only two members! I think we need to establish the cause of this…I mean, these kids are amazing when they are together, not that they are bad as duets, but I think it’s such an implausible thing to see them do what they do as a group.
Nevertheless, the event was mandated to premier the duo’s debut album that will be released on February 2020, while it will be still available for pre-orders on iTunes early next year. According to their manager, and Award-Winning producer, Roc Lefatshe Records owner Suffocate, the album has featured South African artist Bekezela and our very own Han C, who happens to be an award winner, year-in-year-out. Han C proved to be the best in this game, subsequently earning people’s trust and affection. He is indeed a butterfly, at least one that spreads its wings to get some coin.
‘’The album is coming on February 2020 and today’s even is to get to give you a feel of what it is about. We just want to keep you wait with anticipation, and I am confident that this album will be loved by many as it has all that you would want to hear beginning of the year, following a hectic festive season. The album has been complete for two months now so we just finished some logistical part of it, and we still polishing here and there so you get the best finished product’’ he said in an exclusive interview with Weekend Life on the side-lines of the occasion.
Acclaimed, inexhaustible and nifty vocalist Motlha presented a highly charged live performance at that night. He has been off-music circles for quite a stretch now, but I can confidently say he is back by popular demand. Even though performing live is quite daunting, he delivered nonetheless. Motlha might have been going through the gloomiest minute in his life, but the poor kid is a prodigious vocalist of all times. Everything about his performance went smoothly, his songs, sound and vocals were just on point.
When you have been doing this for so long it is easy to let your guard down, taking for granted that people know you can croon. But with Motlha, he gets better every time, musically, and the way he looks. He did not have a cracking voice, he did not forget his lyrics, it happens sometimes and he was composed. This butterfly is a sultry singer I am telling you.
Taking you down the memory lane, Motlha started his music career with My Star, a singing competition that has developed young singers into great artists they are today. Some of the efficacious artistes from the competition are Motlha, Amantle Brown, Motswafere, Kennedy Thal as well as Peach. These artists are winning awards every year, some are even living their lives outside the country, making ends meet through music.
Still at the Khoisan goes Live juncture, Hanceford Magapatona, popularly knows in the music scene as Han C conveyed, undeniably. His voice was fresh and flawless and completely heart melting…and when he went on stage with his beautifully crafted ‘Sedilaaka’ song, the crowd literally died. I am the crowd, I died too. I’m kidding! I am used to him doing this stuff. A 24-year Old’s Sedilaaka was released in 2015 and was at the top spot of local charts for over 21 weeks and is still most people’s favourite, he is another butterfly who knows his stuff. Butterflies know what they want in life, if it’s not some monies, it’s topping charts for weeks, consecutively. And that is quite interesting I must say!
Han C had the crowd moving to his hit song, Rejection and his performance was well planned, he went on without fault, and the band was efficient too. He had the gathering up on its feet dancing and singing along to his tunes, as he belted out soulful but upbeat songs. It was a whole show not to miss, and I am certainly not missing it again in 2020. I have been reliably informed that it will be going down next year. This kid is the most listened to Motswana artist on iTunes and has the most viewership on YouTube, which is testament to the fact that he is a musical driving force in the country. Keep that up, Hanceford!
Fans are important assets to artist’s life; they contribute immensely to the development of an artist. I took to social media to see what they had to say about the show, I mean, they devoted their time to attend this event, even though it was pouring. Lizzy Molabi wrote ‘’This was a show and a half a billion more. I am so happy Khoisan…and it rained. You are blessed’’. For his part, Bon Candor shared ‘’Khoisan goes Live, thanks for the lovely night Suffocate’’. Another fan Amogelang Moatlhaping was too contented, ‘’What an amazing production this was, I am a happy fan’’
Rebecca* is a woman in her late thirties. She holds her head high and walks with a sway in her steps. There is an air of confidence when she speaks. So when she tells me how her husband has been abusing her throughout their 17 years of marriage, I am taken aback.
“Everyday is a new experience for me. I don’t know what version of husband I’ll meet; the one who will scold me for forgetting to lay out his clothes or the one who will hit me for putting too much salt in the soup,” she says while wiping tears. 17 years is almost two decades. I ask her why she has had to endure all that pain for a long time but she only shakes her head and does not answer.
Like Rebecca, hundreds of women experiencing domestic violence find it difficult to leave. For some, it is for reasons best known to them, for others, they simply do not know why or have the words. People who have not experienced abuse find it unfathomable that survivors stay in their relationships and not leave. It seems almost like they enjoy it. But until an experience has been felt, it is easy to give directives on how to act.
For Ms. Ilavbare Goldfish Rahmatulai, it took 6 years to escape the suffocating grip of her abuser. “It was a traumatic experience,” she tells me. “I can tell you this for free; the same intensity used to abuse you is the same intensity used to beg. When he does this, pity begins to set in and you become confused on what to do.”
Ms. Ilavbare Goldfish Rahmatulai
I ask Ms. Demilade Lawal, a psychologist from the University of Chester, in an interview, if there is a psychological reason behind this and she affirms.
“For a lot of women, it’s a glimmer of hope that things are going to get better. And that glimmer of hope can be understood when we are aware of the social cycle of abuse. There is a tension phase, an abuse phase and a honeymoon phase. In the honeymoon phase the abuser temporarily changes his ways and alters the victim’s decision to leave. Then the tension starts and then abuse follows.”
Another reason women remain entangled with their abusers is the fear of the unknown, the unclear reality of what would be after leaving.
“The truth is, as much as this person abuses them, there is an emotional connection. They love this person, there is a traumatic attachment whether they are aware of it or not. It is not the best love environment but it doesn’t change the fact that this is how they feel about the person that abuses them. So the thought of starting afresh without this person whom they have grown to love despite the abuse is just as frightening,” Ms Lawal says.
Although this may sound like an unjustifiable reason to some who have not walked this path, Ms. Rahmatulai agrees.
“In my case, I loved him very much. I could not imagine going to tell my family members or friends that the man I loved started hitting me as early as a month into our marriage. I was embarrassed. So I stayed back, hoping it would get better,” she says.
Research shows that one of the many reasons why women remain in abusive marriages is a lack of income which results in total financial dependency on the abuser. Could this be a strategy to trap the victim in an abusive cycle?
“While I was married, my husband would give me very little housekeeping money. He knew I did not have a job and the money would be insufficient but I could not say a word. I had to feed my children. If I complained I would get beaten. He provided for everything in the house, what authority did I have to question him,” Ms Rahmatulai says to me.
I ask Rebecca if she has a job and she says no. She mentions she’s an interior decorator but she barely gets offers. When she does, her husband collects everything.
A major factor for avoiding abusive marriages is to identify red flags. However, these flags are sometimes mistaken for natural behavioural traits. In Ms Rahmatulai’s case, she tells me she noticed her husband was quick tempered and ill mannered before marriage however she waved them aside as he had never hit her during courtship.
How then can abuse survivors find the courage to leave?
“The decision to leave is a process, it takes a shift in perspective – realising that you deserve better and that your kids deserve to grow in a healthy home where they don’t learn to be abusers or think it’s okay to be abused,” Ms Lawal says.
“When I pack my bags to leave, my husband would hit me. When I unpack, he would hit me. I started going to school to get a degree and then later I started trading. When I had what seemed like enough then (N80,000/ $192), I left my husband regardless of the worst that could happen. I realised if I stayed long enough, I would be dead,” Ms Rahmatulai says.
“It’s been 20 years since I left. I’m 51 and a lawyer now. I have dedicated my life to helping women in abusive marriages leave. So many men have called me a home breaker but I say it’s better to break a home and save a life.”
*Rebecca has asked to stay anonymous by using a pseudonym.
Claire Mom is a Nigerian journalist and an advocate for human rights. Email: email@example.com Twitter: speakclairely
Multitudes of music lovers are expected to throng Francistown’s Obert Itani Chilume Stadium for the highly anticipated As One Music concert next weekend.
Updating WeekendLife on the preparations of the event, Kesego Okie said the preparations for the show are going well and they are working around the clock to make sure that they fulfill all logistics that need to be concluded. She said, ATI has been working hard alongside the featured artists to give Batswana the best experience at concert.
She said that the concert has been accepted well by Batswana and they are very happy with the ticket sales. ”But of course we are looking forward to more ticket sales as more people are showing more interest in being part of this historic event and we are grateful to all our partners and sponsors.”
She appealed to the Francistown Business Community to come on board and support the initiative as it’s a concert for the people. Okie said Francistown was chosen for a reason as they believe it is a gate way to a number of other strategic places in Botswana like Maun, Orapa, Phikwe and Kasane.
“We also felt that since the city has been greatly affected by COVID-19 an event of this magnitude was befitting to be held in Francistown so that we can also play our role in uplifting the socio-economic livelihood hence we believe it is vital for the business community of Francistown to embrace us so that collectively we can contribute meaningfully together as one to the community of Francistown”.
She indicated that they have a large number of artists particularly from Francistown that have shown interest during the show activation and other artists that have collaborated with ATI in the past and those that have contributed in the growth of his music, and it would be very difficult for them to fulfil the mandate of the show without support particularly from the corporate community in Francistown.
Tickets for the event are sold at P50 kids, P150 general, 500 VIP silver circle and VVIP for P1500. All tickets are sold at all Liquarama Outlets across the country.
Founded 30 years ago by David Magang, Phakalane Estates came from humble beginnings to gradually expand into developing one of the most desirable neighborhoods in the country which attract high income dwellers.
When the development began in the early 90s the estate was to be developed into 13 phases. It is then that a decision was taken by the developers to come up with plans that would be appealing to certain groups of the society.
Phakalane Estates continues to make its mark in the property development space, this year, they have managed to invests over P45 million on major renovations to the Golf Estate properties namely the hotel, golf course, and conference center.
Already the company has erected 84 single and double bedroom apartments which commenced early this year. The construction of these new apartments has been set for Peto Estates, a gated community within the Phakalane neighborhood strategically placed a stone’s throw away from multiple shopping centres such as Mowana Park and Acacia Mall.
“We want the best for our clients that is why even in Peto, we have various apartments for every one and also bearing in mind that the people should be not far from the complex,” Phakalane Estates’ Lesang Magang said in an interview.
So far the roads tarring has started at Sebote estate which is part of the estate expansion, it is expected that even things electrically will get handed to the Botswana Power Corporation which will be the last stage plus the lights on the streets. “In terms of infrastructure we don’t compromise we ensure that it is world class so that we don’t disappoint our clients. Those that brought houses earlier when they sell them it comes at a profit.”
Following the success of the launch of Peto Estates back in 2014, when over 300 plots ranging in cost from roughly P300, 000 to P1.4m were immediately sold out with a high surplus of demand, Phakalane Estates boasts strong confidence in the market demand for new apartments in the area.
The apartments are set to follow the trend of the estates with state of the art modern designs and facilities that will unequivocally catch the eye of professionals in the market for a smaller yet upscale rental property in Gaborone. Phakalane Estates CEO Subramaniam Parthiban has expressed plans for the creation of an all-new industrial park in Phakalane aiming to expand and consolidate the existing industrial strength the community already boasts.