Surviving heartbreak and seizing the future!
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Love is such a beautiful thing…and falling in love for the very first time is just striking.
One comes out of a lonely childhood and begins to find confidence as a young adult. Secure a good job, buy your first car and experience a freedom you never felt before. That is all good, but to add cherry on top, let a beautiful girl or boy come your way…they will definitely take you to another level.
Well…bad news will always come around whether you happy in that relationship or not! Just around the corner lay the numbness of loss, the feeling of helplessness and sleepless nights as something magical just slipped away. When you guys first met, you hit it right away. The relationship was fine, burning and the partner was attractive and fun to be around. You guys laughed at the same things, and as you grew closer, stronger feelings soon developed. Falling in love was exciting, for both of you.
Great times, lots of laughs, beautiful flowers, nice chocolates, funny and yet romantic texts, long calls, chilled picnics, matching outfits, fun drives, romantic and cool music, great sex, gossips and romance…and the list goes on. Few months later, you plucked up the courage and propose. She said yes! Marriage was suddenly on the horizon. You spent all your savings on a ring, and made plans for the future. People’s generosity overwhelmed you guys as you were adorned with engagement presents.
As marriage plans are still underway, hints at secrets began to emerge. With little warning, plans crumbled. You spend night after night driving around in your car wondering what to do and how to cope. You stressed and it’s killing you softly. You cry yourself to sleep, you losing appetite and your body is deteriorating. For some reason you will never understand, your fiancée seemed to change. She became colder, and obviously you wondered if she will have feelings for other men. You tried a few times to keep the relationship going, but it didn’t work. It was a dark time of bitter recriminations and rumours. The experience somehow strengthened you.
After a difficult, long time you started developing a more positive sense that happier time could be ahead and that the future, the undiscovered country, could still hold excitement and happiness. We all have a choice to hold onto that belief or dwell in the past. Love can cause pain, but it can heal pain too…According to a lifestyle blog owned by Alan Marsden, a split often results in one person hurting more than the other. Emotions are strong and the feeling is fragile, so it’s vital to avoid anger confrontations. Alan advised that one should not try to convert the relationship into something else overnight. He said it’s key to give each other space.
He further said one should not hide away from favourite haunts. ‘’As a couple, you probably frequented some places, and you are avoiding those not to avoid the memories. Avoiding favourite places only creates conscious reminders and heightens the sense of loss. Although difficult at the start, if you enjoyed particular cafes, cinemas, or beaches, do not avoid them. Enjoy them and create new memories. Although hard in the beginning, continue walking at a nearby lake, and eventually the reminiscing shall stop.Enjoy being a solo artist, Alan said. He stressed that separation can make you aware of how much you are looking for happiness in other people. Take some time without a serious relationship and you will find yourself becoming more able to enjoy your own company.‘’As your self-confidence grows, your reliance on having a partner to enjoy good times diminishes. You get to enjoy single for a certain time, and afterward this will help in your recovery. It is better to let life unfold’’ he said. It’s true to keep the memories secure. Destroying photographs, deleting messages or burning down love letters is not the right thing to do. Things happened, and burning pictures does not change that. Sore the photos away but somewhere safe, perhaps easier in the digital age- but bear in mind that they are also easier to delete. When the time is right, go ahead and look because these were important time sin your life, and you will want to revisit them sometime.
As time passes, the hurt subsides naturally. Alan said you don’t need to do anything. No effort. No timetable. ‘’Just let nature take its course, and be sure in the knowledge that you will recover. Cry when you need to, yes, even if you are a man. Keep an honest perspective. He shared that if a relationship is not working for you, it is not working for the other person too. This realization will help you to come to terms with the situation and help you think about how the other person feels. Putting your fiancé first will help you realize she is no longer wanted you to continue, and you have to come to terms with that.Alan noted that people might judge you as you come out of a relationship. Do not let people taking sides trouble you, and don’t feel you have to correct what they think.
There will always be people who judge, but judgements only hurt if you judge yourself in response. Instead of dwelling on what other people think, focus on finding peace within yourself and you will become stronger and more positive as a result. Forgiving and forgetting also does wonders, Alan claims. Never hold grudges or judge your ex-partner harshly if they were at fault. Nobody makes perfect decisions. It will be easier to forgive if you try to empathize with their situation. Most importantly though, when it comes to forgiving, start with yourself. Beating yourself up slows down your recovery. Show compassion for yourself and you will definitely heal.
Look into the future. Alan highlighted that one should think of all the possibilities that still await-new steps in your career, new friends and experiences in life to enjoy. You often hear advice about focusing on the present moment. This is good advice, but during a relationship break-up, know that the present moment will pass. Move on and make a fresh start. Years later, you will meet a truly wonderful person, a soul mate, a friend and a loyal partner. This will put everything into perspective and more years later, you will still be madly in love.
You see, the end of one relationship might just mean moving closer to the beginning of a new one, and the right one. You never know when love strikes, so if you have lost love recently, don’t give up, believe in yourself, and take each day one at a time. Your soul mate is out there looking for you right now…good luck!
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BOTSWANA TO HOST MISS WORLD 2026
Even though Botswana has over the years been performing extremely poorly at the Miss World competition, the country has confirmed that it will be hosting the beauty festival in 2026. Initially, the country was to host Miss World next year, something it failed to confirm before deadline. Director at Miss Botswana, Benjamin Raletsatsi, says Botswana will be ready then to host all participants. Miss Botswana Top 25 finalists left the boot camp yesterday. Quite shocking though, Miss Botswana team is still failing basics as responding to media inquiries on time yet it is dangerously hoping to host an event of high status
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DJ Sway ‘saved’ the YAMAs
DJ Sway, the daring and ambitious on-air presenter of Yarona FM, played a crucial role in saving the radio station’s music awards, known as the YAMAs. The event was initially dry and disorganized, but DJ Sway, who co-hosted with Pearl Thusi, injected life into the show. However, things took a turn for the worse when Pearl Thusi abruptly left the stage, leaving DJ Sway to carry on alone. Despite the unexpected setback, DJ Sway rose to the occasion and captivated the audience, effectively putting an end to the drama caused by Pearl Thusi.
In an exclusive interview after the YAMAs, DJ Sway revealed the behind-the-scenes chaos that unfolded during the event. He acknowledged the script editors, Phalana and Hope, who worked tirelessly to reedit the script and adapt it to a one-host format. Despite the last-minute changes, DJ Sway remained composed and focused, thanks to the support of his colleagues, such as Owen Rampha, Katlego Rakola, Tshepang Motsisi (DJ Easy), and LB.
When asked about his initial reaction to the unexpected turn of events, DJ Sway admitted to feeling saddened by how things ended. However, he credited Pearl Thusi for giving him a much-needed confidence boost during his moment of doubt. She reminded him that he was destined for greatness and that he didn’t need big stars to succeed. With her words of encouragement, DJ Sway regained his composure and approached the rest of the show with the same professionalism and charisma he displays on the radio.
To overcome the challenges he faced, DJ Sway relied on his radio skills and calm personality. He engaged with the audience as if he were speaking to a single person, pointing out individuals in the crowd to create a more intimate connection. He also expressed gratitude for his backstage team, who provided support and ensured the smooth running of the show.
DJ Sway expressed satisfaction in being seen as the saving grace of the YAMAs. He believed that he fulfilled his role as a host and brought joy to the Yarona FM board, his family, and his fans. Despite his success, DJ Sway’s journey has not been without hardships. He has experienced the loss of his mother and sister, which has left a lasting impact on him. While he continues to grieve, he seeks solace in therapy sessions and relies on his father for emotional support.
DJ Sway’s dedication to his craft and ability to overcome adversity make him a remarkable figure in the radio industry. His vibrant personality and deep knowledge of music have made him a perfect fit for Yarona FM. Despite the challenges he has faced, DJ Sway remains determined to make a positive impact and bring joy to his listeners. With his talent and resilience, there is no doubt that DJ Sway will continue to thrive in his career and leave a lasting legacy in the world of radio.
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Chef Gustos walk of shame
Chef Gustos, the renowned hitmaker, recently experienced what can only be described as a walk of shame at the 8th edition of the Yarona FM Music Awards (YAMAs). Despite being nominated a whopping seven times, he failed to secure a single win. Ouch!
The night was filled with surprises, drama, and controversy, but the biggest winner of the evening was Han C, who walked away with three awards, including Best Pop and Best Male Single for his hit song, “Sebinki.” Han C graciously announced that he would be donating P10,000 from his winnings to his fellow nominees, promoting a spirit of togetherness among artists. What a noble gesture!
Meanwhile, Chef Gustos found himself on the losing end of several categories, including People’s Choice Artist of the Year, which he had won in the past. He seemed unfazed by the loss, stating, “People know that ‘Away’ was big, but they won’t stop me.” It’s clear that Chef Gustos is determined to continue making music, regardless of the awards he receives.
However, he did express his frustration with the outcome, suggesting that the awards may be corrupt. He declined to comment further, citing the need to protect his brand and maintain good relationships with corporate clients. It’s understandable that he wants to avoid any potential damage to his future prospects.
In fact, Chef Gustos went so far as to request that Yarona FM not nominate him for future YAMAs. It seems he wants to distance himself from the disappointment and focus on his music without the pressure of awards. Perhaps this decision will allow him to create freely and without the burden of expectations.
While Chef Gustos may have experienced a walk of shame at the YAMAs, it’s important to remember that awards do not define an artist’s talent or success. His fans still appreciate his music, and he continues to have gigs with corporate clients. So, despite the disappointment, Chef Gustos remains optimistic about his future in the industry.
In the end, the YAMAs may have been a letdown for Chef Gustos, but he’s determined to keep moving forward. He won’t let a lack of awards dampen his spirits or hinder his creativity. And who knows, maybe next time he’ll come back stronger and prove that he’s deserving of recognition. After all, the true measure of an artist’s success lies in the hearts of their fans, not in shiny trophies.