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Pornography leads to Divorce Researchers

Pornography is any form of entertainment created to arouse the audience sexually. It is particularly a concern due to the explicit pictures they display. It can sometimes cause distress as explicit images depicting penetration, aggression and raw sexual interactions between adults are vividly slashed on screen.

It is often easily accessible and kept anonymous. Even though women watch porn, men are by far the biggest audience. Research shows that porn can impact marital intimacy in significant ways. According to Archives of Sexual behaviours, research suggest that married men and women who use pornography are more likely to head for divorce than man and women who do not. The research further highlighted that pornography is a driver in making relationships worse, increasing the divorce risk.

Hence if married people are not cautious they might find themselves falling off the wagon and headed for splitsville. “Pornography can create unrealistic portraits in people’s minds about how sexual relationship are supposed to function and that kind of scripting can affect relationships,’’ the research further states.

Whilst sex could be one of the main factors that drive most marriages, when people are not entirely satisfied they end up resorting to other different sexual pleasures to ensure their sexual needs are met and pornography is said to be one of those many reasons why people watch adult content.

“It is also the case that porn can have a vicious cycle effect on relationships. In other words, when a relationship is going poorly people might turn to porn. Turning to pornography can now make the relationship to be even worse by becoming a vicious cycle,’’
As compared to those who eventually quit along the way, they are reported to have happier relationships. Younger couples and happier couples seem to be more affected by the use of pornography as compared to older couples, they are also said to be less happy as a couple.

The use of pornography in a relationship is a red flag to partners on where their union is headed, in instances of addiction, couples are likely to kill the spark that existed between them terminally. If sex satisfaction is not served, partners should communicate and have a mutual agreement on how best they can revive their sexual pleasures.

In a survey made in 2002, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers questioned 350 divorce attorneys and found that roughly 60 percent reported that internet porn played a significant role in the divorces, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half of such cases. “First, intimacy for couples is a source of connection and communication between two people. But when one person becomes accustomed to masturbating to porn, they are actually turning away from intimate interaction.

Second, when watching pornography, the user is in total control of the sexual experience, in contrast to normal sex in which people are sharing control with the partner. Thus a porn user may form the unrealistic expectation that sex will be under only one person’s control. Third, the porn user may expect that their partner will always be immediately ready for intercourse. This is unrealistic as well,” Dr. John Gottman explained in a humble and heartfelt open letter to readers in 2016.

In an interview with WeekendLife, Psychologist Keletso Thekiso shared her sentiments with this publication citing that several factors contributes to this widespread use, easy access to technology being amongst them. To a point that some people are anonymously accessing pornographic content on the internet, which is easy and affordable hence the widespread use.

“Some studies revealed that men watch pornography more as compared to women. They tend to experience more joy when watching with other men while women experience positive feelings about pornography in the presence of male partners.  Furthermore, women tend to be more accepting of pornography use within the relationship than men. According to research, this may be because of the need to protect the quality of relationships and respect towards their partners,” she said.

The implications of watching adult content online have its own adverse repercussions and having multiple concurrent sexual partners being one of them. “By depicting sex outside committed relationships it may result in negative attitudes towards monogamy and marriage. Moreover, Most pornographic actors/actresses or ''porn stars" as they are commonly called are often physically appealing and some users may view them as reflecting potentially realistic partners, and subsequently increase how they view their romantic alternatives.

This could mean that there is a significant correlation between cheating in romantic relationships and the use of pornography,” she highlighted. Shockingly, she further indicated that studies have revealed that the use of pornography may lower sexual satisfaction in a relationship. Some users may opt to watch it to increase their sexual satisfaction as their present relationship is not meeting their sexual needs.

“A majority of porn movies often depict a power imbalance between men and women. Men are usually in charge and use verbal aggression while women are submissive and obedient. This led the researchers to conclude that pornography generally has a corresponding script that involves violence and female degradation.” She explained. In conclusion, she urged researchers to explore this topic further as the findings may help therapists. Again she encourage those that are addicted to watching pornography and seeing its effects to seek relationship therapy as it often helps.

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African countries call on WHO to increase funding

2nd February 2023

Minister of Health Dr Edwin Dikoloti says Africa member states call on World Health Organization (WHO) to ensure equitable resource allocation for 2024-2025. Dr Dikoloti was speaking this week at the WHO Executive Board Meeting in Geneva, Switzerland.

He said countries agreed that there is need to address the budget and funding imbalances by increasing the programme budget share of countries and regions to 75% for the next year.

“The proposed budget for 2024-2025 marks an important milestone as it is the first in Programme Budget in which country offices will be allocated more than half of the total budget for the biennium. We highly welcome this approach which will enable the organization to deliver on its mandate while fulfilling the expectations for transparency, efficiency and accountability.”

The Botswana Health Minister commended member states on the extension of the General Programme of Work (GPD 13) and the Secretariat work to monitor the progress towards the triple billion targets, and the health-related SDGs.

“We welcome the Director’s general proposed five priorities which have crystalized into the “five Ps” that are aligned with the GPW 13 extension. Impact can only be achieved through close coordination with, and support to national health authorities. As such, the strengthening of country offices is instrumental, with particular focus on strengthening national health systems and on promoting more equitable access to health services.”

According to Dr Dikoloti, the majority of countries with UHC index that is below the global median are in the WHO Africa region. “For that, we call on the WHO to enhance capacity at the regional and national levels in order to accelerate progress. Currently, the regional office needs both technical and financial support in order to effectively address and support country needs.”

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Botswana still weighing in on Maseko’s assassination

27th January 2023

The Minister of Foreign Affairs, Dr. Lemogang Kwape says Botswana has not taken any position regarding the killing of a renowned human rights lawyer, Thulani Maseko, who was gunned down at his house in Mbabane, Eswatini.

In a brief interview with WeekendPost, Dr Kwape said Botswana has not yet taken any position regarding his death. He said the purported incident should be thoroughly probed before Botswana can form an opinion based on the findings of the inquiries.

“Botswana generally condemns any killing of human life by all means,” says Dr. Kwape. He wouldn’t want to be dragged on whether Botswana will support the suspension of Eswatini from SADC.

“We will be guided by SADC organ Troika if they can be an emergency meeting. I am not sure when the meeting will be called by Namibian president,“ he said.

However, the Namibian president Hage Geingob notes with deep concern reports coming out of Eswatini about the killing of Mr. Maseko. In a statement, he called upon the “Government of the Kingdom of Eswatini to ensure that the killing of Maseko is swiftly, transparently and comprehensively investigated, and that any or all persons suspected of committing this heinous crime are brought to justice.”

Maseko was chairperson of the Multi-Stakeholder Forum which was established as a coalition of non-State actors to advocate for a process of national political dialogue aimed at resolving the security and political challenges confronting the Kingdom.

“SADC expresses its deepest and heartfelt condolences to the family of Mr. Maseko, his friends, colleagues, and to the people of the Kingdom of Eswatini for the loss of Mr. Maseko. In this context, SADC further calls upon the people of the Kingdom of Eswatini to remain calm, exercise due care and consideration whilst the appropriate structures conduct the investigations and bring the matter to completion,” the statement says.

Geingob reiterated the need for peaceful resolution of the political and security challenges affecting the country.

Meanwhile political activists are calling on SADC to suspend Eswatini from the block including the African Union as well.

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Kopong Murder: Accused interferes with witnesses again!

27th January 2023

State prosecutor, Seeletso Ookeditse revealed before the Broadhurst Magistrate Jobbie Moilatshimo that the third accused involved in the murder of Barulaganye Aston, has interfered with the State witnesses again.

The second and third accused (Lefty Kosie and Outlwile Aston) were previously accused of interference when they were caught in possession of cellphones in prison. They were further accused of planning to kill the deceased’s brother, who is currently the guardian to the children of the deceased.

Ookeditse indicated that Outlwile had earlier went to challenge the magistrate’s decision of denying him bail at the High Court before Judge Michael Motlhabi.

“The third accused approached the High Court and made a bail application, which was dismissed on the same day,” Ookeditse said.

However, even after the High Court verdict on their bail application, the duo (Kosie and Aston) has once again applied for bail this week.

Ookeditse plead with the court to stop the accused from abusing the court process.

“Yesterday, Directorate of Public Prosecutions (DPP) received papers of his bail application filed before the Broadhurst Magistrates Court. However, the papers do not speak to changed circumstances, therefore this back and forth about bail must be put to a stop,” said the State prosecutor.

While giving evidence before court, the Investigations Officer, Detective Inspector Quite Zhalamonto, said his investigations have proved that there is interference continuing regarding the accused trio.

He told the court that on the 12th of January 2023, he received a report from Thato Aston, who is the son of the accused and the deceased. The son had alleged to the Investigation Officer that he received a call from one Phillip Molwantwa.

According to Zhalamonto, Thato revealed that Molwatwa indicated that he was from prison on a visit to the Outlwile Aston and went on to ask where he was staying and where his siblings (Aston’s children) are staying.

“Thato revealed that Phillip went on to ask if he or his siblings saw their father murdering their mother, and he was referring to the crime scene. Thato told me that he, however, refused to answer the questions as he was afraid especially because he was asked about where him and his siblings stay,” said Zhalamonto.

Zhalamonto alluded to the court that he then went to Orange to confirm the communication between Thato and Molwantwa where he found the case.

“I have arrested Philip yesterday and when I interviewed him, he did not deny that he knows Aston and that he has indeed called Thato and asked questions as to where him and his siblings resides even though he failed to give reasons for asking such questions,” Zhalamonto told the court.

He further revealed that Molwantwa indicated that he had received a call from an unknown man who refused to reveal himself.

“Phillip told me that the unknown man said he was sent by the accused (Aston), and that Aston had instructed him to tell me to check if there was still some money in his bank accounts, and he also wanted to know where the kids were residing, the unknown man even asked him to meet at Main Mall” the Investigation Officer told the court.

He further informed the court that he is working tirelessly to identify the “unknown caller” and the route of the cell number.

Furthermore, the fourth accused, Kebaleboge Ntsebe, has revealed to the court through a letter that she was abused and tortured by the Botswana Police Services. She wrote in her letter that she suffered miscarriage as a result of being beaten by the police.

Ntsebe is on bail, while a bail ruling for Aston and Kosie will be delivered on the 6th of next month

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